Maybe she thought it was hideous and was just trying to think of something nice to say?

OP, you could be my sister. She bought her “forever home” a few years ago and fully renovated it before moving in, worked with an interior designer, the whole nine yards. I’m
glad they love it—truly—but it’s really not my style, personally. Neither the location nor the aesthetic nor the bells and whistles that are supposed to indicate their level of affluence. I feel like I’m in a soulless hotel or something when I visit. Just not my scene.

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you? I am asking because my sister came visit our newly built custom home and the jealousy on her face couldn't be more obvious, and almost seem hateful. We are very low-key on how much money we make, I guess it was a shock to her to see our new house? We saved for years and years and lived in a tiny crappy place before this, she lives in a lower cost-of-living city and bought a nice big house years ago. She doesn't seem the least bit happy for me that we finally bought our forever home.

Dear OP, I completely understand. I'll give you 3 examples as well. We lived in a nice but basic beige rectangle of a home and an apt previous to that to save and made very crazy sacrifices to move into our "forever larger home". The moment my youngest brother visited our home, I could tell he felt a little uncomfortable and once or twice he reacted in a conversation out of jealousy when mentioning "normal" things such as HOA issues, amenities in the neighborhood. It was bragging and one upping to him because he does not have these type of things in his life.
The second moment is when my parents visited for the first time, during their visit they extended us an international trip. They announced it and everything but the moment they left our home for the first time, they canceled the trip and stated that it was too expensive for them.
And lastly my BEST FRIEND that I maintained 10+ years of friendship with from college, stopped regularly reaching out after I told her about moving into my dream, forever home.

All this to say, if you are doing better in comparison to others, unfortunately they will often drop you due to the money thing. Or be jealous. I think it's normal but it sucks.

Well it sounds like money can build you a custom built forever home but it can’t buy you happiness.

Enjoy your home and chill out

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Anonymous wrote:Is it normal for siblings to be hyper jealous of you? I am asking because my sister came visit our newly built custom home and the jealousy on her face couldn't be more obvious, and almost seem hateful. We are very low-key on how much money we make, I guess it was a shock to her to see our new house? We saved for years and years and lived in a tiny crappy place before this, she lives in a lower cost-of-living city and bought a nice big house years ago. She doesn't seem the least bit happy for me that we finally bought our forever home.

I think it's abnormal for you to take such obvious delight in this.

Trust me, there is no delight, zero.

Sorry. I don’t believe you. At all.

No

I grew up dirt poor and housing insecure. I personally love it when my friends get new houses. Anyhow I was at a friend’s house warming and made a video at the party. When I watched it back, one of her friends had this sulky face the whole time. a bunch of eye rolling at the toast and the saging and literally at everything that was done. Super weird. My friend didn’t even notice all that was going on. I wonder whatever happened to that friend. Haven’t seen them since showing my friend the video.

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Anonymous wrote:So she didn't say anything negative, just had a look on her face?

she did not say anything negative, but the look on the face says it all, it's like she was trying very hard to pretend to be happy for me.

So…you are basing this on a look on her face only? Do I have that right?

Yes for the nth time. It’s her sister. You live with someone for 18 years you know what a face means unless you are a complete egghead

This sounds completely invented. Try again.

Anonymous wrote:Sibling jealousy is very common and the ones on this thread pretending otherwise are simply being disingenuous. So what you observed is likely real, OP.

Sure, sibling jealousy is real. But there's nothing in OP's post to suggest that that is the problem here.

Anonymous wrote:Sibling jealousy is very common and the ones on this thread pretending otherwise are simply being disingenuous. So what you observed is likely real, OP.

I call my jealous sibling Jelly Belly .. it’s very real & a thing

It's clear she's jealous and it's clear you're getting a delightful frisson out of it, despite claiming the contrary. So you guys deserve each other.

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy. I can’t help but think they hit too close to home for jealous people.
My siblings are very jealous of me. The OP is talking about financial wealth but I am talking about the wealth of creating a loving family which is a not something we grew up with and something that they were not successful in doing. All of my siblings have greater financial wealth but they are in miserable marriages and have miserable kids. There is nothing I can do to change this. Neither can the OP.

I’m sure there are many jealous siblings out there. But a lot aren’t, too. And OP did come off pretty poorly in the post. If she loves her home and feels her sibling should be or is jealous of it…so?

My SIL is like this and she's definitely not normal

And he gave may have been “oh this is tacky” or “oh how basic” vs. jealousy