Anonymous
Post 12/07/2025 21:00     Subject: Getting over a love - what helped?
Anonymous wrote:Realizing that they were never the person they portrayed to be the first 6 months. I fell in love with that person and then managed to imagine future together. They were just mirroring how I treated them. I must have done a good job, because it felt so good.
They were also from different culture. I thought that's norm for them. Not true.
I did ask why they would love-bomb me and then fall flat. They said everyone did that. Again, not true.
The worst is not even the love-bombing, but disappearing and then thinking they can just come back whenever and several times. Who the heck does this?! Not one healthy person I know. They need validation when they contact me and my healing takes several steps back.
Shortly, I love the fantasy I created based on how they were at the beginning.



This is not good as they get in touch with you to reduce their guilt. how long you dates this person and time since you broke up?
Anonymous
Post 12/07/2025 16:00     Subject: Getting over a love - what helped?
I have these warm, affectionate feelings for someone who was unkind to me. This is very, very silly, but I make myself make a disgusted face when I think of him. Somehow it tamps down the temptation to have warm feelings about this garbage person. It’s like the physical act influences where my mind is trying to go.