Should be out of the house after high school. Put your foot down and don’t allow your kids to boomerang back home.

Has a job and living at home is NOT failure to launch. It is likely an affordability issue … do not blame the ridiculous cost of living on the adult kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

You are nuts.

At 20, most who plan to obtain a college degree are still in college, and only a tiny % of them are self supporting.

Anonymous wrote:Imho its unhealthy for young adults over 20 to be living in their childhood bedrooms.

I hope throughout the years, as they got older, you changed their bedroom decor. Geez!

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

Paid for by their parents. Grad school living costs are also at least partially funded by parental involvement.

It's rare in our area for a 20-24 year old to be fully financially independent. This is why the gov't says they can stay on your insurance until 26. By then, they should have a full time job with benefits.

It's not rare for a 22-24-year-old to be financially independent. Graduate from college, start a job. That's how it works. You achieve that through internships or working with the campus career center. Or, you go to graduate school, and then yes, your parents are probably still helping.

Almost every young person in my circle gets a professional job after college and moves from campus to apartment or they go to wherever their grad/professional school is.

Same. I know of 1 kid who wanted to move back home at the start of a professional job after college. He's always guilted my friend into paying for things, and this was another example of him trying to shift costs to his mom. She said he could stay for 6 months, but he'd have a 10 pm curfew (she's a light sleeper), no alcohol or loud music in the house, and chores, which killed his idea. He moved into an apartment with roommates.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

Paid for by their parents. Grad school living costs are also at least partially funded by parental involvement.

It's rare in our area for a 20-24 year old to be fully financially independent. This is why the gov't says they can stay on your insurance until 26. By then, they should have a full time job with benefits.

It's not rare for a 22-24-year-old to be financially independent. Graduate from college, start a job. That's how it works. You achieve that through internships or working with the campus career center. Or, you go to graduate school, and then yes, your parents are probably still helping.

Almost every young person in my circle gets a professional job after college and moves from campus to apartment or they go to wherever their grad/professional school is.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

Paid for by their parents. Grad school living costs are also at least partially funded by parental involvement.

It's rare in our area for a 20-24 year old to be fully financially independent. This is why the gov't says they can stay on your insurance until 26. By then, they should have a full time job with benefits.

Yes, majority isn't fully financially independent if they are students but they aren't living at home. They live with roommates.

My cousin is now in his late 50s. He moved home after law school and never left. He did pass the bar exam. He has no job or girlfriend. He does have a dog and lives in his childhood bedroom. His mom is now in her mid 80s.

Now he's her primary caregiver. He drives her to dr appts, does the grocery shopping, cleans the house.

He's gone from oh, he live with his parents to awww, it's that nice that he takes care of his mom (my uncle passed away 10 yrs ago).

He'll be inheriting the house when my aunt dies. He has 2 siblings that are fully launched. I have no idea where or how he gets spending money.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

Paid for by their parents. Grad school living costs are also at least partially funded by parental involvement.

It's rare in our area for a 20-24 year old to be fully financially independent. This is why the gov't says they can stay on your insurance until 26. By then, they should have a full time job with benefits.

It's not rare for a 22-24-year-old to be financially independent. Graduate from college, start a job. That's how it works. You achieve that through internships or working with the campus career center. Or, you go to graduate school, and then yes, your parents are probably still helping.

Anonymous wrote:My brother has a degree (including two different Masters) and has lived at home with my parents for the last twenty years since graduating from out-of-state undergrad. Has a salaried job, girlfriend, and dog, from his childhood bedroom. At this point, we all know he's never leaving.

You consider it healthy?

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

Paid for by their parents. Grad school living costs are also at least partially funded by parental involvement.

It's rare in our area for a 20-24 year old to be fully financially independent. This is why the gov't says they can stay on your insurance until 26. By then, they should have a full time job with benefits.

Anonymous wrote:My brother has a degree (including two different Masters) and has lived at home with my parents for the last twenty years since graduating from out-of-state undergrad. Has a salaried job, girlfriend, and dog, from his childhood bedroom. At this point, we all know he's never leaving.

Situations like this fascinate me.

The girlfriend is OK with this? (Do they actually go on grownup dates?) Your parents are OK with this? Has your brother always been a little .... odd?

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Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

This is not remotely true.

It is. Only people living at home after 20 are ones who can't physically, logistically, mentally or financially make it work. That doesn't mean they are doomed to failure but not able to launch like average young adult.

The only 20 year olds I know that fully live on their own are in some far flung midwest or southern town, getting married and starting their own family in a low cost of living area.

Most 20 year olds I know are living on campus or off campus with roommates. By 22 they get first professional job or gone to grad/professional school.

My brother has a degree (including two different Masters) and has lived at home with my parents for the last twenty years since graduating from out-of-state undergrad. Has a salaried job, girlfriend, and dog, from his childhood bedroom. At this point, we all know he's never leaving.

Anonymous wrote:Unless they've severe health issues, its rare for a young American to be living at home after 20 if they have had enough social, professional, logistical and financial skills to live independently.

Nope, not rare at all. What would be rare is a 20 year old with lots of "professional, logistical, and financial skills."