Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 11:12     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Men make this choice all the time. DH certainly did and from what I can tell he feels zero guilt. Instead I SAH and then worked very PT to make up for it. But frankly I would have teacher had more time with him than the extra money. But it wasn’t my choice.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 10:24     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Anonymous wrote:Wut career takes off in late 40s lolz


These comments are so weird to me. I worked PT from age 32 to 43, then went FT and yes, my career "took off" then. I landed an executive level job at 51.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 10:15     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Money will ultimately provide a lot more than your time. It’s a finite period. Just make the time you’re able to spend quality.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 10:10     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Wut career takes off in late 40s lolz
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2025 08:15     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Anonymous wrote:Not sure where best to post this, but looking for some stories of how things worked out.

I'm 48. Kids are in 4th and 6th grade. DH recently took a huge step back and works 10-15 hr/week with a lot of flexibility. In the last two years, my career has started taking off. New job with a huge promotion and a lot of professional opportunities. As much as I'd like to believe the opportunities will still be here in 10 years, I don't think they will in this way. But accepting them now means less time with my kids. It is a huge change for them (a positive one) to have him so much more involved. I was intentionally in less-intense, WAH jobs for a long time.

I think we have the right support and structure in place where putting my career a bit more ahead now would be okay, but I'm curious to hear from those who have BTDT.


Would it be possible to give them up for adoption ?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 17:48     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Anonymous wrote:why would someone old like 48 career be picking up, studies show that if you aren't already making closet to 7 figures by age 40 then you are at the top of your career and won't progress. get a grip.


Troll. And it's close not closet. And your first sentence isn't grammatically correct. I'm guessing you don't have friends to hand out with on a Saturday and no homework given the holidays.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 17:40     Subject: Re:Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
This sounds great. My dh was primary parent at these ages and I traveled a lot. But he worked 40 hour week. This sounds great
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2025 20:23     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. I guess to me my kids are still little even if they are growing up fast

This is good advice. One of my biggest challenges is probably that I travel a lot, and a lot of it is international. I try to be intentional, but it's a requirement of my job. Still trying to figure that out.


We have done this successfully, but in my case the kids were a little younger. By the time my youngest hit middle school, my travel is only in the US. I was in the C suite at that point so I have a ton of control over my schedule. You do need to figure out what you can control and what you cannot. I generally stop work at 4pm each day when my 8th grade kid gets home from school and spend several hours with her. I have been able to do this for the three years of middle school. I then get caught up at other times.


This. If you’re senior enough, make work work for your family. My PA doesn't schedule me after 3:30 and knows im unavailable in school vacations.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2025 19:22     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Weird curious what takes off in your late 40s
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2025 19:18     Subject: Late 40s, career taking off, little kids
Do you have boys or girls?

I would not consider 9 and 11 little kids. They are tweens. I mean they can come home by themselves at this age and don’t even need a parent. Your part time working husband can easily handle this while you take the promotion. This would be different if you had toddlers.