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Anonymous wrote:I’m not a mom of college kids yet, but I work at a university, so these threads fascinate me. And make me indignant on behalf of your awesome seniors!

Over the summer, my sister’s family and my family met up in Indiana, the “halfway point” between DC and South Dakota, where my parents live. We had a great time at my parents’ lake house.

While we were there (for a little over a week), I took my nephew, a rising junior at the time, to see IU Bloomington, my alma mater, because he hadn’t yet been on any campus tours outside of Augustana and the University of Sioux Falls, which are close to his home.

He loved it, and while we were driving back to the cottage, I said, “Hey we could go to Ball State tomorrow,” as that is 20 minutes from the lake place. He was like, that’s great.

I was later talking to my cousin who lives in Nashville on the phone, telling her what we were all up to. I said I took nephew to visit IU and Ball State. She said, “Ball State, WHY, oh my GOD, that place is trash and he’d better not go there.”

Her own sister graduated from Ball State, and is very successful. Nephew wasn’t serious about applying to either IU or Ball State, we were just getting a taste of universities different from the ones he has easy access to tour. That phone call made me realize how awful grown adults can be about colleges, and how hard it must be to be a parent of seniors sometimes! Good luck, everyone!

Wrong take. It is not 1985 or 1994 it is 2025 there is no way in hell it is smart to send a college kid to Indiana.

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Anonymous wrote:How did your seniors do navigating relatives asking non-stop questions about where they want to go to college, and offering unsolicited opinions?

We warned our DD this would happen and she handled it great, but there’s one school in particular that she’s seriously interested in that several family members have an issue with, and you can almost see them visibly squirm when the name is mentioned. As parents, we’re trying to remain neutral and let her guide the process, so it’s just annoying to hear grandma outright disparaging certain schools to her, and trying to push schools that she couldn’t be less interested in.

Please share the name of the school which made adults "visibly squirm". (Unless it's had a highly publicized scandal like Sarah Lawrence College or is well known druggie school, it's hard to imagine a school which would cause such a strong reaction.)

Please share the school name as we can offer suggestions specific to that school or can give an opinion as to whether or not you or your relatives are overreacting.

Thanks in advance.

Anonymous wrote:I went to Duke in the 90s. I was on the nerdy side, huge basketball fan, lifelong Democrat. I had multiple artsy super-progressive acquaintances tell me not to go there because I would become an obnoxious Republican frat boy like everyone else at Duke. I loved these self-proclaimed super progressive open minded people making these ridiculous generalizations about everyone at Duke - hypocrite much?

TL/DR: I had an incredible experience. Didn't join a frat but had many close friends who did and loved their parties. Remained a Democrat but became a much more thoughtful, open-minded one.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the school?

Probably the only school that would make me squirm would be Liberty.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not a mom of college kids yet, but I work at a university, so these threads fascinate me. And make me indignant on behalf of your awesome seniors!

Over the summer, my sister’s family and my family met up in Indiana, the “halfway point” between DC and South Dakota, where my parents live. We had a great time at my parents’ lake house.

While we were there (for a little over a week), I took my nephew, a rising junior at the time, to see IU Bloomington, my alma mater, because he hadn’t yet been on any campus tours outside of Augustana and the University of Sioux Falls, which are close to his home.

He loved it, and while we were driving back to the cottage, I said, “Hey we could go to Ball State tomorrow,” as that is 20 minutes from the lake place. He was like, that’s great.

I was later talking to my cousin who lives in Nashville on the phone, telling her what we were all up to. I said I took nephew to visit IU and Ball State. She said, “Ball State, WHY, oh my GOD, that place is trash and he’d better not go there.”

Her own sister graduated from Ball State, and is very successful. Nephew wasn’t serious about applying to either IU or Ball State, we were just getting a taste of universities different from the ones he has easy access to tour. That phone call made me realize how awful grown adults can be about colleges, and how hard it must be to be a parent of seniors sometimes! Good luck, everyone!

Anonymous wrote:If your kid intends to go to an SEC school you can bet their lib tard relatives would never shut up about it.

Anonymous wrote:What is the school?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did your seniors do navigating relatives asking non-stop questions about where they want to go to college, and offering unsolicited opinions?

We warned our DD this would happen and she handled it great, but there’s one school in particular that she’s seriously interested in that several family members have an issue with, and you can almost see them visibly squirm when the name is mentioned. As parents, we’re trying to remain neutral and let her guide the process, so it’s just annoying to hear grandma outright disparaging certain schools to her, and trying to push schools that she couldn’t be less interested in.

Please share the name of the school which made adults "visibly squirm". (Unless it's had a highly publicized scandal like Sarah Lawrence College or is well known druggie school, it's hard to imagine a school which would cause such a strong reaction.)

Please share the school name as we can offer suggestions specific to that school or can give an opinion as to whether or not you or your relatives are overreacting.

Thanks in advance.

NP here,

My mom visibly squirmed at any school that was Catholic, or that didn't have a great reputation when she applied to college in the 1950's. She'd then suggest my wonderful but not super high stats kid apply to some super reachy school in the same reason. "Hartford? I don't think anyone's heard of the University of Hartford? If he wants to go to school in Connecticut, what about Yale?"

OP here and this is close to the scenario. I don’t want to name the school, but it’s definitely a snob factor. It has a high acceptance rate and MIL is audibly lamenting that she won’t consider a much preppier private school in the same city.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the school?

University of Hail Satan at Gay Sex

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did your seniors do navigating relatives asking non-stop questions about where they want to go to college, and offering unsolicited opinions?

We warned our DD this would happen and she handled it great, but there’s one school in particular that she’s seriously interested in that several family members have an issue with, and you can almost see them visibly squirm when the name is mentioned. As parents, we’re trying to remain neutral and let her guide the process, so it’s just annoying to hear grandma outright disparaging certain schools to her, and trying to push schools that she couldn’t be less interested in.

Please share the name of the school which made adults "visibly squirm". (Unless it's had a highly publicized scandal like Sarah Lawrence College or is well known druggie school, it's hard to imagine a school which would cause such a strong reaction.)

Please share the school name as we can offer suggestions specific to that school or can give an opinion as to whether or not you or your relatives are overreacting.

Thanks in advance.

NP here,

My mom visibly squirmed at any school that was Catholic, or that didn't have a great reputation when she applied to college in the 1950's. She'd then suggest my wonderful but not super high stats kid apply to some super reachy school in the same reason. "Hartford? I don't think anyone's heard of the University of Hartford? If he wants to go to school in Connecticut, what about Yale?"

Trade you. Mine loves ND due to many family members and like considered too. However, when mine announced they were attending an Ivy, first words were that isn’t Catholic, right? Then they were silent for a couple weeks upset about it.

Anonymous wrote:What is the school?