Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 12:47     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DC is at an unnamed SLAC - and was falsely accused of a Title IX violation. After months of the process the accuser was told that what they accused of was not unwanted based on evidence (texts to friends and family) However, my child and the accuser are not supposed to be within a certain distance of each other.
On a small campus and with a small student body this is really limiting.
I believe on a less progressive campus, the accusation would have never moved forward.
This never crossed my mind as we were going through the process of figuring out the right school - but want others to have visibility for consideration


LACs are small, gossipy (everyone seems to know everyone else's business) communities. Can be a wonderful experience for those who find their clique, but a nightmare for those who experience any type of social or other issue.

OP: Has your son considered transferring ? Tough accusation to live down. Very difficult to function in such a small environment with that label/reputation whether true or false.

Many males are fearful of initiating contact with another out of fear of being accused of sexual assault. Probably best to avoid intimate relations with other students at small schools unless a contract is signed consenting to physical relations while both are sober. Not kidding. Even then one can accuse the other of sexual assault because one person allegedly withdrew consent during the up to then consensual interaction.

It’s funny seeing a person defend an assaulter with a bunch of incel bs about not being able to initiate women or whatever. Stop assaulting women and you won’t get these accusations.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 11:50     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
How friendly is Oberlin to straight, athlete male students? My DS likes everything about the school after visiting, but just not sure about this. Intended major is Business/Finance.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 10:16     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wesleyan grad ok experience but zero career services, and apathetic alumni - buyer beware. And if ur male u better play a sport or be LGBQT, or you won’t have peeps


Have heard and read the same complaints about Wesleyan from many students over many years. Not much of a welcoming environment for straight males; very uncomfortable, hostile environment for anyone who shares a non-progressive thought.

I’ve only read that here. Never actually seen an alum make this claim. In fact, I know more straight male Wesleyan students in relationships than alum who found it “too queer.”


Yup. Parent of current Wes student and agree that the only place I hear this perspective is on DCUM from people who have “heard” it from other unnamed people. The idea that straight men are unwelcome is truly crazy. And while the student body is certainly overall more progressive than not, it’s very much a place of openness and respect. It’s a really welcoming place.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:36     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wesleyan grad ok experience but zero career services, and apathetic alumni - buyer beware. And if ur male u better play a sport or be LGBQT, or you won’t have peeps


Have heard and read the same complaints about Wesleyan from many students over many years. Not much of a welcoming environment for straight males; very uncomfortable, hostile environment for anyone who shares a non-progressive thought.

I’ve only read that here. Never actually seen an alum make this claim. In fact, I know more straight male Wesleyan students in relationships than alum who found it “too queer.”
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:31     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wesleyan grad ok experience but zero career services, and apathetic alumni - buyer beware. And if ur male u better play a sport or be LGBQT, or you won’t have peeps


Have heard and read the same complaints about Wesleyan from many students over many years. Not much of a welcoming environment for straight males; very uncomfortable, hostile environment for anyone who shares a non-progressive thought.


This sounds nuts to me--never heard of it from anyone. Certainly, people with deep insecurities can feel off-put when their views are less dominant (see: Stephen Miller), which I assume is what's at play with those you've talked to.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:23     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DC is at an unnamed SLAC - and was falsely accused of a Title IX violation. After months of the process the accuser was told that what they accused of was not unwanted based on evidence (texts to friends and family) However, my child and the accuser are not supposed to be within a certain distance of each other.
On a small campus and with a small student body this is really limiting.
I believe on a less progressive campus, the accusation would have never moved forward.
This never crossed my mind as we were going through the process of figuring out the right school - but want others to have visibility for consideration


LACs are small, gossipy (everyone seems to know everyone else's business) communities. Can be a wonderful experience for those who find their clique, but a nightmare for those who experience any type of social or other issue.

OP: Has your son considered transferring ? Tough accusation to live down. Very difficult to function in such a small environment with that label/reputation whether true or false.

Many males are fearful of initiating contact with another out of fear of being accused of sexual assault. Probably best to avoid intimate relations with other students at small schools unless a contract is signed consenting to physical relations while both are sober. Not kidding. Even then one can accuse the other of sexual assault because one person allegedly withdrew consent during the up to then consensual interaction.

Thank you.
We mention it - that it is always an option and unfortunately an impact of the accusation was horrible grades so that he feels stuck that he could not transfer to a school that is a peer school. As a parent helping a child navigate this journey is hard and it is expensive (even if you have all the right evidence you need a lawyer).
It is isolating for the student they are not supposed to talk to anyone else about the case.
For small schools that have only one dining hall there is always stress that you might accidentally run into the person.

Since then my child will not date anyone on campus.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:22     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:For parents whose kids are at Pomona - which career paths are they considering?

This is applicable to most LACs but besides Economics, other majors dont seem to have any direct path to employment/career - but rather Grad School or Law.

Is that a fair assessment. DC would love to go to Pomona but is not sure what will come out of career outcomes - so is hesitating to apply.

I think your DC should be far more worried about getting in!
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:17     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Interesting that Pomona, Davidson, Amherst have come up on this board but not other higher and lower ranked colleges. Would be interested to hear about Kenyon, Denison, Furman, Grinnell, muhlenberg, etc.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 09:00     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For parents whose kids are at Pomona - which career paths are they considering?

This is applicable to most LACs but besides Economics, other majors dont seem to have any direct path to employment/career - but rather Grad School or Law.

Is that a fair assessment. DC would love to go to Pomona but is not sure what will come out of career outcomes - so is hesitating to apply.

The career outcomes are great, but yes many students go into Law or grad school. Pomona’s number 1 destinations are tech/consulting (California influence, much?), but there’s an infinite number of paths. This question really matters more with what major your DC is interested in. If your DC is a good fit, they should apply.


TY for responding. So basically 'something' will work out - given the quality/reputation of Pomona and the location?

We are in Virginia- so maybe William and Mary is a good (and much cheaper) alternative - but I know the opportunities in LA will be far greater. And cant beat the LA weather.



It's the same everywhere. history majors at Harvard mostly go to law school, or graduate school, and the rest figure 'something' out. Kids who are smart enough to go to these selective schools like Pomona are smart enough to find employment.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 07:07     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:DC is at an unnamed SLAC - and was falsely accused of a Title IX violation. After months of the process the accuser was told that what they accused of was not unwanted based on evidence (texts to friends and family) However, my child and the accuser are not supposed to be within a certain distance of each other.
On a small campus and with a small student body this is really limiting.
I believe on a less progressive campus, the accusation would have never moved forward.
This never crossed my mind as we were going through the process of figuring out the right school - but want others to have visibility for consideration


LACs are small, gossipy (everyone seems to know everyone else's business) communities. Can be a wonderful experience for those who find their clique, but a nightmare for those who experience any type of social or other issue.

OP: Has your son considered transferring ? Tough accusation to live down. Very difficult to function in such a small environment with that label/reputation whether true or false.

Many males are fearful of initiating contact with another out of fear of being accused of sexual assault. Probably best to avoid intimate relations with other students at small schools unless a contract is signed consenting to physical relations while both are sober. Not kidding. Even then one can accuse the other of sexual assault because one person allegedly withdrew consent during the up to then consensual interaction.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 06:59     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:wesleyan grad ok experience but zero career services, and apathetic alumni - buyer beware. And if ur male u better play a sport or be LGBQT, or you won’t have peeps


Have heard and read the same complaints about Wesleyan from many students over many years. Not much of a welcoming environment for straight males; very uncomfortable, hostile environment for anyone who shares a non-progressive thought.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 03:52     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:Pomona parents - did your kid bring schoolwork home? My kid was doing a lot of assignments and preparing for the finals, although wasn’t complaining. I wanted to see if it’s her time management or it’s the school rigor.



My Amherst kid has two assignments (one substantial) due Monday morning.
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 01:58     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:Pomona parents - did your kid bring schoolwork home? My kid was doing a lot of assignments and preparing for the finals, although wasn’t complaining. I wanted to see if it’s her time management or it’s the school rigor.

Finals are in 2 weeks, and there’s not a lot of time between final classes, reading days, and the actual exams, so it’s not uncommon. Ours is working on general relativity work still, but that class has consumed their whole semester (third year family here). The rigor is high, but your kid will persevere!
Anonymous
Post 11/28/2025 01:54     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Pomona parents - did your kid bring schoolwork home? My kid was doing a lot of assignments and preparing for the finals, although wasn’t complaining. I wanted to see if it’s her time management or it’s the school rigor.
Anonymous
Post 11/27/2025 22:22     Subject: How is your current SLAC student liking their experience?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For parents whose kids are at Pomona - which career paths are they considering?

This is applicable to most LACs but besides Economics, other majors dont seem to have any direct path to employment/career - but rather Grad School or Law.

Is that a fair assessment. DC would love to go to Pomona but is not sure what will come out of career outcomes - so is hesitating to apply.

The career outcomes are great, but yes many students go into Law or grad school. Pomona’s number 1 destinations are tech/consulting (California influence, much?), but there’s an infinite number of paths. This question really matters more with what major your DC is interested in. If your DC is a good fit, they should apply.


TY for responding. So basically 'something' will work out - given the quality/reputation of Pomona and the location?

We are in Virginia- so maybe William and Mary is a good (and much cheaper) alternative - but I know the opportunities in LA will be far greater. And cant beat the LA weather.