Anonymous
11/28/2025 14:57
Subject: Re:How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:40 days.
I am Asian. My baby and I rested and were taken care of by 2 dedicated care givers. I was fed nutritious foods and drinks to promote healing and lactation, I was massaged and bathed, I did not have to lift a finger, I only nursed and played with my baby and just healed. My baby also was massaged, bathed, diapered, burped, soothed, rocked by these two ladies and my DH. All house chores were outsourced.
I did not have visitors for 40 days (except close family members). Baby and I always had someone close to us (my mom or DH), we were not left alone. I did not go out for 40 days. It was absolute peace, quite, comfort, support, various healing therapies and bonding with my baby.
You are so out of touch it's kind of hilarious. Most women in the U.S. are back at work within six weeks of giving birth and have no help from family or the auntie network.
I mean but it does sound amazing. I might even have another baby if I could be guaranteed 40 days of rest and relaxation.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 14:55
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t sit for three weeks after my second delivery, due to complications. It’s hard to sit tight, but both baby and mom have to be able to make the trip safely.
That much car seat time might also flatten the baby’s head. I’d wait until mom is cleared to drive, then rent an Airbnb at the halfway point. Buy or borrow a pack and play so the baby can sleep that night. Driver also needs a sound machine in their room so they can drive safely the next day.
It's a five hour drive... why would you do that over 2 days? It's going to be far easier to do that with 3-4 breaks in one day rather than dealing with a hotel or Airbnb.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 14:51
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:C section? They need to take frequent stops to walk. Maybe take a few days to get back.
A few days for the trip, or a few days after birth to do the trip?
You certainly don't need to spread out a 5 hour drive over a few days.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 14:13
Subject: Re:How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:40 days.
I am Asian. My baby and I rested and were taken care of by 2 dedicated care givers. I was fed nutritious foods and drinks to promote healing and lactation, I was massaged and bathed, I did not have to lift a finger, I only nursed and played with my baby and just healed. My baby also was massaged, bathed, diapered, burped, soothed, rocked by these two ladies and my DH. All house chores were outsourced.
I did not have visitors for 40 days (except close family members). Baby and I always had someone close to us (my mom or DH), we were not left alone. I did not go out for 40 days. It was absolute peace, quite, comfort, support, various healing therapies and bonding with my baby.
You are so out of touch it's kind of hilarious. Most women in the U.S. are back at work within six weeks of giving birth and have no help from family or the auntie network.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 08:40
Subject: Re:How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
40 days.
I am Asian. My baby and I rested and were taken care of by 2 dedicated care givers. I was fed nutritious foods and drinks to promote healing and lactation, I was massaged and bathed, I did not have to lift a finger, I only nursed and played with my baby and just healed. My baby also was massaged, bathed, diapered, burped, soothed, rocked by these two ladies and my DH. All house chores were outsourced.
I did not have visitors for 40 days (except close family members). Baby and I always had someone close to us (my mom or DH), we were not left alone. I did not go out for 40 days. It was absolute peace, quite, comfort, support, various healing therapies and bonding with my baby.
I am Asian. My baby and I rested and were taken care of by 2 dedicated care givers. I was fed nutritious foods and drinks to promote healing and lactation, I was massaged and bathed, I did not have to lift a finger, I only nursed and played with my baby and just healed. My baby also was massaged, bathed, diapered, burped, soothed, rocked by these two ladies and my DH. All house chores were outsourced.
I did not have visitors for 40 days (except close family members). Baby and I always had someone close to us (my mom or DH), we were not left alone. I did not go out for 40 days. It was absolute peace, quite, comfort, support, various healing therapies and bonding with my baby.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 06:43
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
I couldn’t sit for three weeks after my second delivery, due to complications. It’s hard to sit tight, but both baby and mom have to be able to make the trip safely.
That much car seat time might also flatten the baby’s head. I’d wait until mom is cleared to drive, then rent an Airbnb at the halfway point. Buy or borrow a pack and play so the baby can sleep that night. Driver also needs a sound machine in their room so they can drive safely the next day.
That much car seat time might also flatten the baby’s head. I’d wait until mom is cleared to drive, then rent an Airbnb at the halfway point. Buy or borrow a pack and play so the baby can sleep that night. Driver also needs a sound machine in their room so they can drive safely the next day.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 06:37
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
The thing that makes me the most nervous here is the baby in the infant seat for so long. The fact that the baby was born a few weeks early adds to this. Baby might be content to sleep for hours straight, but I think it will he important to stop and take the baby out of the seat at least every hour.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 04:16
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
How did this happen? Why were they traveling so far from home so close to her due date? Can we assume she had the baby early? If so, is the baby ok? Long hospital stay?
Anonymous
11/28/2025 00:31
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:You should tell the relative to do whatever SHE is comfortable with. I would probably kill you if you tried to tell me "Well I polled the internet and a lot of people said they'd be fine after two weeks as long as you stopped every 2.5 hours."
It doesn't matter what other people are comfortable with - it matters what the mother and baby are cleared for and comfortable doing.
I am not planning on telling her anything. I am wondering in my own head and in the anonymous forum. She and her husband will make their own decision.
There was no C-section.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 00:26
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
You should tell the relative to do whatever SHE is comfortable with. I would probably kill you if you tried to tell me "Well I polled the internet and a lot of people said they'd be fine after two weeks as long as you stopped every 2.5 hours."
It doesn't matter what other people are comfortable with - it matters what the mother and baby are cleared for and comfortable doing.
It doesn't matter what other people are comfortable with - it matters what the mother and baby are cleared for and comfortable doing.
Anonymous
11/28/2025 00:22
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:C-section was a very important detail, poster - mother should speak with doctor about that if relevant
OP never mentioned a C-section.
Anonymous
11/27/2025 10:55
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
I took my 1st from NH to Baltimore when she was 2 weeks old to go visit dh at an away rotation. Vaginal delivery. We stayed at a hotel for 4 nights in ore and it was a nightmare so then we drove to my mom’s house in NY where we stayed for 3 weeks until DH rotation was over. Db liked the car so it was not a biggie but I fractured my tailbone and remember having to drive while sitting on a donut pillow. This was 14 years ago so it seems crazy now but it was fine then. We also had the dog with us lol
Anonymous
11/27/2025 10:44
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Oh gosh, ASAP.
I’d try to stay in the hospital as long as I could, and go home from there if at all possible. I would NOT want to stay at a relative’s house with a newborn waking every 2 hours, me bleeding all over, feeling like a guest.
If I had to stay a long time, I’d get an Airbnb to have my own space with my husband and baby.
I’d try to stay in the hospital as long as I could, and go home from there if at all possible. I would NOT want to stay at a relative’s house with a newborn waking every 2 hours, me bleeding all over, feeling like a guest.
If I had to stay a long time, I’d get an Airbnb to have my own space with my husband and baby.
Anonymous
11/27/2025 10:43
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
Anonymous wrote:OP here,
I should clarify, a relative has just given birth while visiting out of town family. So, the road trip would be to get them home. Just trying to figure out when they might reasonably be able to make the trip. Thinking both about when the trip would be bearable for mom, and safe for newborn. Maybe "comfortable" wasn't the right word. Obviously this won't be a fun trip!
This is a question for her doctors.
Anonymous
11/27/2025 10:41
Subject: How soon after giving birth would you be comfortable
C section? They need to take frequent stops to walk. Maybe take a few days to get back.