Anonymous wrote:Daughter’s counselor told us she felt very confident she will be done with the process in December. Hope she is right!

Same here. Fingers crossed!

My kid is so burned out-so hoping they’ll be done with everything mid December. Luckily their sport ended.

Daughter’s counselor told us she felt very confident she will be done with the process in December. Hope she is right!

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Anonymous wrote:it's a lot easier if you have other apps semi-ready to go.

But how do you get your child to work on RD apps over the next week without it seeming like 'My parents don't think I'm getting in to my ED'. I really hope they get in, but also want to be realistic knowing how rejective the school is.

That was the deal with ED in our house. We'll hope for the best, but continue working on the rest.

This was same with my #1 who got into ED and never, ever thought, why did I spend time on other essays?

Anonymous wrote:My kid ended up getting into her ED choice a few years ago. I thought she had a 50-50 chance of getting in, so I kept hyping up her other options.

THIS admissions cycle.

No one cares about "a few years ago. "

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Anonymous wrote:it's a lot easier if you have other apps semi-ready to go.

But how do you get your child to work on RD apps over the next week without it seeming like 'My parents don't think I'm getting in to my ED'. I really hope they get in, but also want to be realistic knowing how rejective the school is.

Mine submitted a number of additional schools the same night they submitted their ED. Once the Common App essay was done, it was easy to follow up additional school supplementals as a matter of course. It wasn’t about “not believing in my kid”, more that we’ve talked in depth about just how tight their ED is so of course they would submit other apps just in case…

This also takes away the fright of “I’m screwed if I don’t get into my ED”.

Love The Schools That Love You Back has been trademarked in our house. I say it early and often. I want my kid to know I’m proud of their hardwork and that I won’t be disappointed if they don’t get into their ED school.

But yeah, I’m obviously crossing all of my fingers and toes for them. Mid-December can’t come soon enough, more so they know their path either way. Two weeks from the 12/01 app deadlines we’ll know what’s-what.

We are good - ds applied to a reach he really likes but says he will be fine if he gets rejected or deferred. I honestly hope he does not ED2 unless he has a clear #2 by then. He also applied EA to a few schools. Even if he ends up applying to another 10-12 schools, I don't think doing the supps will be too bad - he's been jotting down ideas and researching schools as he goes along. I am glad he hasn't actually written out the supps for his RD schools because the more he learns about those schools and himself, the better they will be. Sure, winter break may be spent doing that, but big deal. It pains me that so many kids are caught up in the "dream school" thing - when early decisions come out at my kids' school, there are always tears as only around 50% of kids there get into their ED/REA/SCEA. There are so many great schools, no need to get wrapped up in just one or two. And I think when parents are going to feel "devastated" if their kids do not get in, they have lost the plot and are doing their children and family life a great disservice.

I'm hoping the decision comes out as late as possible on Dec 19, then DD doesn't have to talk to any classmates. They are all so spun up about ED decisions, and this is a NOVA public. I can't imagine what it's like at private.

Anonymous wrote:Not going to lie, I will be devastated if DC doesn't get in to their ED. My kid will be happy wherever, but no where stands out to them like his ED school does.

Devastated? That's a little dramatic. You're too invested.

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Anonymous wrote:it's a lot easier if you have other apps semi-ready to go.

But how do you get your child to work on RD apps over the next week without it seeming like 'My parents don't think I'm getting in to my ED'. I really hope they get in, but also want to be realistic knowing how rejective the school is.

This. Or alternatively, my kid really wanted to apply to Yale, but since it's highly unlikely, went with more likely ED school. I don't want him doing Yale supplementals (which look kind of fun) and get his head into that "maybe i should've tried Yale" space. Doesn't help that they keep sending us mailers either!

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Anonymous wrote:DC is awaiting an ED decision the first week in December. If he doesn’t get in, Christmas break will be rough with all the other applications. We are cautiously optimistic but it’s a very selective SLAC so the waiting is stressful.

Sounds like Midd. We’re waiting too.

Yup. Good luck!

Oh my, same here. Good luck to all.

Eek, sounds like we’re the 4th family in this thread waiting on Midd (and another NESCAC for a twin). The waiting is hard, the questions from older relatives at Thanksgiving will be a lot. Fingers crossed and also trying to keep them moving on the ED2s and RDs

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Anonymous wrote:DD went through this last year. ED’d to her top choice, was deferred to RD, then offered waitlist. She ended up attending the first school that accepted her because it was obvious that they really wanted her. Love the school that loves you back. I think it’s awful that so many schools waitlist kids to manage their yield. It’s much better to just reject them and let them move on instead of letting them hold out hope for a slim chance of getting off a long waitlist. Good luck everyone!

How would you reject a waitlist?

Did you write a rejection letter to the school?

Dear Columbia: I have carefully reviewed your waitlist email. After much consideration ...

I guess you haven’t done this before. There is a place to check off you don’t want to be on the waitlist. DD rejected being on waitlist for 8 schools after got into UCLA and never looked back,

worse each day.

DC applied ED to Emory as an athlete and GPA and SAT are in the range for recruitment, and the coach supported DC. However, we applied for FA. We are not sure if the FA package will meet our needs as they promised, or if Emory will just reject DC.

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Anonymous wrote:DC is awaiting an ED decision the first week in December. If he doesn’t get in, Christmas break will be rough with all the other applications. We are cautiously optimistic but it’s a very selective SLAC so the waiting is stressful.

Allay some of the stress by working on those other apps now.

+1

My kid had all apps but two done by Nov 1. And had all of the supplemental for those two almost done by Nov 15. Th en just has to spend a few hours putting it all together when Ed was a deferral