Mom to 3 adult males, 2 of whom are married. None of the 5 adults eat breakfast. I don't even try any more and just eat on my own and let them fend for themselves during the day.

I would just ask your daughter if you should save him a plate for later, or not. I’d assume not, since most breakfast food doesn’t reheat well.

I would not offer to cook a 2nd breakfast but make sure he knows he is welcome to anything he likes if he’d like to fix his own.

If host or guests have diabetes or need to take morning medication with food, they don't need to wait to eat together.

We take coffee and a cereal bar at 7 and then have proper breakfast when guests are up. DH's nephew and his wife visit often and aren't ever up before 10.

Let him know what time you plan to serve breakfast and ask if he’d like for you to save him a plate to reheat later. My husband is up at 5 or 6 and generally doesn’t want to wait for me to make something. He eats cereal or yogurt if I have planned to make breakfast which is usually served at 9. I feel a 9:00 breakfast is a reasonable compromise when I have both early risers and late sleepers (my boys wake closer to 11). If you feel it would be nicer to eat with her boyfriend, consider having a snack on waking and then serving brunch for everyone. I remember on our huge extended family vacations my mom would make a big breakfast while I was still sleeping. I didn’t expect everyone to wait on me. I was happy to serve myself leftovers or eat cereal. If I were visiting with my in-laws, I’d feel the same. Personally I’m not a huge breakfast person anyway. I’m happier with a bagel or cereal.

Anonymous wrote:I bet this is something like OP loves to have breakfast at 6 AM, and SIL is "sleeping in" until 8:30.

I'm a bit baffled also because surely they're off work and taking vacation days. If someone expected me to get up at 7 AM for no good reason when I'd spent a vacation day, I'd be annoyed.

I bet this is something like OP loves to have breakfast at 6 AM, and SIL is "sleeping in" until 8:30.

When I visited my MIL she'd just show us where the English muffins and yogurt was. Her making coffee was a nice enough gesture. A 28 year old surely can make her own breakfast.

My SIL takes hours in everything, getting up, taking showers, getting ready, not just mornings but at any time of the day and its a bother but they love each other and we love DD so we accommodate him. He has some OCD and some lazy habits though makes an effort to show up for work on time and do well there.

In our family we go out of our way for hosts and guests so it still feels odd to us but it is what it is. He is sweet and nobody is perfect.

Anonymous wrote:One breakfast and it's very rude to sleep in while you are a guest in someone's home.

Its even worse to be sleepless and grumpy.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I'll make pancakes but everyone wakes up at a different time so they just help themselves whenever they get up. I can't imagine forcing people to get up early to eat breakfast, or expecting everyone to wait for late risers to eat!

This^. Everyone should feel free to get up or eat when they want. No need to force anyone to get up early or wait. Keep life simple, convenient and happy.