Anonymous
11/17/2025 07:00
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Given the 100+K to 400K cost of college, doesn't it make sense to do so?
Anonymous
11/17/2025 06:52
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Yes I have the passwords, initially checked to make sure the financial aid stuff got transferred correctly, since I was in charge of fafsa/css. But after I verified everything was uploaded correctly I haven’t checked.
Same here
Anonymous
11/17/2025 06:47
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.
Why do you care if they’re smug? That doesn’t change the fact that your kid has ADHD. You will always have to be involved like this, even when your kid is an adult. Are you going to resent these comments for the rest of your life? Get over it. It is what it is.
Why are you all acting like ADHD is this impossible diagnosis? Between meds and routines and effort, this isn’t a huge disability. I say this as someone with ADHD who wasn’t diagnosed/medicated until my 40s. If you are enabling your teens and treating them as incompetent, then sure they’re never going to be competent.
Anonymous
11/17/2025 06:37
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Yes I have the passwords, initially checked to make sure the financial aid stuff got transferred correctly, since I was in charge of fafsa/css. But after I verified everything was uploaded correctly I haven’t checked.
Anonymous
11/17/2025 05:50
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.
OP here. Actually my kid has severe ADHD. She also has OCD, so I guess maybe that disorder helps her in this situation? Honestly, if I thought she couldn't manage it, I would offer the help, but she seems to be on it. I just thought it was odd that this mom was boasting about how she is so on top of her kid's application process with no involvement from her student apparently.
That mom probably has nothing else going on in her life and so spends all her time micromanaging her kids lives. Just be glad you aren’t her kid and enjoy your day.
Anonymous
11/17/2025 05:47
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.
Why do you care if they’re smug? That doesn’t change the fact that your kid has ADHD. You will always have to be involved like this, even when your kid is an adult. Are you going to resent these comments for the rest of your life? Get over it. It is what it is.
Anonymous
11/17/2025 05:43
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
My kid has a college only email and I check that occasionally for interview/audition info so we can buy plane tickets and to note if they are requesting more submissions. Kid is a music major. I let him deal with the portals but I do usually stop in his room weekly when he is submitting stuff just to make sure all is well.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 21:23
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Mommy checking portal and kids checking portal are not mutually exclusive. Mommy does her own checking, kids theirs. Some mommys are the type who really really wants to stay on top of EVERYTHING. In that case, it's better let them be. Kids can do their own, independent, checking.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 21:20
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Ask your DC check SPAM folder frequently. I have seen kids who missed email requiring them to act to stay on WL. The email went to spam, the kid was not on WL. He might have gotten in if stayed on WL.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 21:10
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
I don't have passwords or track it all. Honestly, if DC wasn't able to track deadlines he'd probably be better off with a year at community college.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 21:02
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
I do not check my kids portal. My kid is super organized. If I had a kid who was a disorganized mess I would definitely check.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 21:02
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
MYOB
Anonymous
11/16/2025 20:58
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid doesn’t have ADHD, congrats to you. Some of us are trying to help our kids apply to college or else they might not even go. And maybe they’ll fail out once they’re there. I hope you are extra smug when we have to tell you about that.
OP here. Actually my kid has severe ADHD. She also has OCD, so I guess maybe that disorder helps her in this situation? Honestly, if I thought she couldn't manage it, I would offer the help, but she seems to be on it. I just thought it was odd that this mom was boasting about how she is so on top of her kid's application process with no involvement from her student apparently.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 19:49
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Anonymous wrote:Both of mine handled it all. If they are ready for college, they should be able to manage an application.
Same here. I have twins and I don't check anything, nor do I have passwords to check.
Anonymous
11/16/2025 19:48
Subject: Do you check your kid's portal?
Mine is a sophomore but I can totally see myself checking, not because I am a control freak but because he is scatterbrained