I think many people are heavily invested in making it look to the outside world like everything is good even when it's terrible. They'll hold hands and pretend to have an affectionate relationship but go home and berate the person and make them feel like crap. These tend to be users who want to keep access to someone's gravy train. They want to ward off potential competition.

You can’t. My best friend and her husband love to travel and go to concerts together. He would be a great boyfriend but he’s a lousy husband and she sleeps with their dogs. She is not generally a very sexually motivated person. I don’t do much fun stuff with my husband but won’t spend a full week away from him. All this to say, even if couples get along well you have no idea about their sex life

No one would ever guess we have a good sex life. We aren’t affectionate or flirtatious in public as all. We are demure in public but not in our private relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally think that people who exercise a lot, particularly men, don’t have a great sex life.
If a middle-aged married man has a whole home gym set up in his garage, his marriage is basically sexless.

In my case you would be wrong. I am 48, keep in shape using the gym at work and have plenty of sex at home. I am under no illusion that letting myself go would result in even more sex.

+1. Getting into good shape led to more and better sex in our marriage at this stage of life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher in a wealthy DC suburb and I am in the midst of parent-teacher conferences. When both parents attend, I am often genuinely puzzled as to how these two people ended up together.
Not the answer to your question but....

I don't think you can always tell outwardly how a couple's sex life is.

Do you ever want to sleep with the dads?

Not at all. But I have been hit on by dads before.

We are very happy and get along well. We aren’t affectionate in front of others though. And at parties we usually separate so we can mingle with everyone. We often divide and conquer with our 3 kids too. I’m not sure people know how good our marriage is and it feels weird to brag.

We have an awesome sex life. So hot that both of us are still thinking about it the next day.

Anonymous wrote:Well you could tell Harry and Meghan had a hot sex life the first few years. They were obviously besotted with each other.

No, they’re both too “besotted” with their own reflection in the mirror.

Well you could tell Harry and Meghan had a hot sex life the first few years. They were obviously besotted with each other.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher in a wealthy DC suburb and I am in the midst of parent-teacher conferences. When both parents attend, I am often genuinely puzzled as to how these two people ended up together.
Not the answer to your question but....

I don't think you can always tell outwardly how a couple's sex life is.

Over the years, it has occurred to me that love & sex are 2 of the worst reasons to get married, but probably 2 of the most common reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally think that people who exercise a lot, particularly men, don’t have a great sex life.
If a middle-aged married man has a whole home gym set up in his garage, his marriage is basically sexless.

In my case you would be wrong. I am 48, keep in shape using the gym at work and have plenty of sex at home. I am under no illusion that letting myself go would result in even more sex.

No. I think it’s the other way. The no sex leads to the going to the gym for hours a day and building one in your garage.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher in a wealthy DC suburb and I am in the midst of parent-teacher conferences. When both parents attend, I am often genuinely puzzled as to how these two people ended up together.
Not the answer to your question but....

I don't think you can always tell outwardly how a couple's sex life is.

Do you ever want to sleep with the dads?

Anonymous wrote:I generally think that people who exercise a lot, particularly men, don’t have a great sex life.
If a middle-aged married man has a whole home gym set up in his garage, his marriage is basically sexless.

In my case you would be wrong. I am 48, keep in shape using the gym at work and have plenty of sex at home. I am under no illusion that letting myself go would result in even more sex.

Anonymous wrote:I generally think that people who exercise a lot, particularly men, don’t have a great sex life.
If a middle-aged married man has a whole home gym set up in his garage, his marriage is basically sexless.

But his affair isn’t.

I generally think that people who exercise a lot, particularly men, don’t have a great sex life.
If a middle-aged married man has a whole home gym set up in his garage, his marriage is basically sexless.

No one would suspect that my spouse and I have sex. And we don't.