Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 22:59     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
OP is ridiculous. Most people have bills to pay and kids to care for. Divorce or no divorce is a question when you have time and money to ponder it.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:46     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.


Yeah right


Not pp, but yeah, this is right. Divorce is an epic PITA. If you can split from your STBX and find some peace and stability, filing the formal paperwork isn't a priority. I'm in the same boat, and it's fine.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:41     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
It’s an erroneous assumption that “unhappy” men cheat.

I know the OW is getting a load of BS thrown their way about the “terrible” wife and his “unhappiness” to get her on the hook but that’s rarely the real story.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:38     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:

This is all I think of when I see these women. Sad and pathetic.


Yet women like OP are eagerly reaching in
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 20:11     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Many women would put up with almost anything to avoid giving up 50% of their time with their kids.


Additionally, waiting out the kids gives you ample time to meet with an attorney, gather evidence, and plan for a comfortable divorce. In many states, including no-fault states, cheating can be used to determine the amount and duration of alimony, so taking enough time to be fully prepared before you need to file can be quite beneficial.


Is this based on experience-that cheating can determine the amount and duration of alimony in no fault states? Will be going through mediation so not sure how to work with this
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:54     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.


Yeah right
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:19     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.


Is the friend a male and is it platonic? I would love to find someone and have this arrangement but don’t know how and where to start..husband is having an affair and is ready to pull the plug anytime btw

If he’s preparing to leave then you go to an attorney and figure out your options stat. He’s certainly not looking out for your best interests, so don’t get caught flatfooted.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 19:12     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.


Is the friend a male and is it platonic? I would love to find someone and have this arrangement but don’t know how and where to start..husband is having an affair and is ready to pull the plug anytime btw
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 18:38     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Between my kids, parents, friend, job and hobbies, I redirected my energy completely away from my husband. It was like flipping a switch and I just don’t care about him in the slightest. I haven’t divorced simply because I don’t feel like it. I haven’t an attorney, am ready to file at any time, but going through it right now isn’t what’s best for me.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 18:26     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
^She would have stayed married and he would drain her inheritance on his extramarital affairs. She was fine with her mother spending all her money when she was alive on things he should have paid for - their house, utilities, food, tuition. Nice deal for a bum.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 18:23     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A woman I knew was unattractive, overweight, low skilled but from a wealthy family. Husband was a gold digger and their household was financially supported by the wife’s mother. He cheated on her from the time she was first pregnant (kids born 2000, 2003 and desperate attempt to save the marriage last one born 2010, no sons) and she just threw up her hands. She enjoyed making snarky comments about people she knew who got divorced. I think she looked down on people who were divorced. It was one way she could feel superior. When her mother died and the husband realized $$$ would be divided among her siblings he served her divorce papers, and a restraining order.


Did the husband not realize that inherited wealth goes to blood relatives, never spouses? Like, it really took her mother's death for him to figure this out? I mean, any of us with any money we intend for our children are thinking about how to protect it from gold diggers like that man.


Her siblings were unmarried and she assumed (or pretended to him)she would get everything. I think she held his interest by telling him this and getting his hopes up, stringing him along. Golden handcuffs. The mother put the house into a life estate with the daughters as remaindermen.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 18:16     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:A woman I knew was unattractive, overweight, low skilled but from a wealthy family. Husband was a gold digger and their household was financially supported by the wife’s mother. He cheated on her from the time she was first pregnant (kids born 2000, 2003 and desperate attempt to save the marriage last one born 2010, no sons) and she just threw up her hands. She enjoyed making snarky comments about people she knew who got divorced. I think she looked down on people who were divorced. It was one way she could feel superior. When her mother died and the husband realized $$$ would be divided among her siblings he served her divorce papers, and a restraining order.


Did the husband not realize that inherited wealth goes to blood relatives, never spouses? Like, it really took her mother's death for him to figure this out? I mean, any of us with any money we intend for our children are thinking about how to protect it from gold diggers like that man.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 18:03     Subject: Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
A woman I knew was unattractive, overweight, low skilled but from a wealthy family. Husband was a gold digger and their household was financially supported by the wife’s mother. He cheated on her from the time she was first pregnant (kids born 2000, 2003 and desperate attempt to save the marriage last one born 2010, no sons) and she just threw up her hands. She enjoyed making snarky comments about people she knew who got divorced. I think she looked down on people who were divorced. It was one way she could feel superior. When her mother died and the husband realized $$$ would be divided among her siblings he served her divorce papers, and a restraining order.
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 17:39     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??
Anonymous wrote:

This is all I think of when I see these women. Sad and pathetic.



I laffed so loud at this OMG
Anonymous
Post 11/12/2025 17:23     Subject: Re:Why do women want to hang on to cheating men they seem to despise??


This is all I think of when I see these women. Sad and pathetic.