Anonymous wrote:Op here. Kid is ten. Does that make a difference? A girl.

The kids came over after we were all out together so no one had a chance to tidy toys but it was in a clearly not out for play area of the house. It was no immediately put away because a. We were occupied with another game the first ask and b. The kids were getting picked up.

It was not a mealtime and they had all had donuts out immediately PRIOR to the playdate. Ofc I said no, and redirected from the cookie ask with other snacks initially after the first 4 kinds were offered. Then I straight up said no more snacks.

But honestly I cannot believe all of you want to justify kids being this poorly behaved. At 10. Mainly was curious if anyone would tag this as poor impulse control and/or spoiled at home and gets her way when asking multiple times. I expected some who thght this was fine behavior but wow, a lot of you are raising little sh*ts. 😆😆 And flame away because I don't feel badly about how I "managed" this playdate. 😂

Anonymous wrote:It’s not rude. Why didn’t your kid open it? Might have made for a fun activity.

Anonymous wrote:You can always tell the kids that have permissive parents--very little is off limits.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Kid is ten. Does that make a difference? A girl.

The kids came over after we were all out together so no one had a chance to tidy toys but it was in a clearly not out for play area of the house. It was no immediately put away because a. We were occupied with another game the first ask and b. The kids were getting picked up.

It was not a mealtime and they had all had donuts out immediately PRIOR to the playdate. Ofc I said no, and redirected from the cookie ask with other snacks initially after the first 4 kinds were offered. Then I straight up said no more snacks.

But honestly I cannot believe all of you want to justify kids being this poorly behaved. At 10. Mainly was curious if anyone would tag this as poor impulse control and/or spoiled at home and gets her way when asking multiple times. I expected some who thght this was fine behavior but wow, a lot of you are raising little sh*ts. 😆😆 And flame away because I don't feel badly about how I "managed" this playdate. 😂

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the kid doesn’t have impulse control and may be adhd.

Or maybe just doesn't get told no enough and is a brat who is constantly spoiled if they nag often enough.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds normal to me. After she asked once I would have put the gift away. Kids might be uncomfortable with new foods.

I am getting so tired of the responses justifying all children’s bad behavior. So they ate four snacks but “might be uncomfortable with new foods”? Uh, ok.

I think it's over the top to say that a kid asking if they can have chips or a cookie is rude. You are well within your rights to say "no, we're having apple slices for snack" but the kid wanting a cookie just makes them a kid who has been given a cookie at a previous playdate and had high hopes. (Or, worst case scenario, the kid was legitimately hungry and is being demonized for being excited about having access to what seemed like unlimited food, but I would hope that OP would be at least somewhat sensitive to that dynamic.)

OP, leaving out a new toy in a box during a playdate and saying that it cannot be played with is a poor choice. If you don't want to play with it, you put it away before guests come over.

Asking for cookies as a fifth snack is rude, no matter how much you try to spin it.
It’s OK to say birthday gifts are off limits.
Again, you “gentle parents” are raising brats.

Anonymous wrote:I would be annoyed if a kid repeatedly asked for something. My kids know “asked and answered.” I’m guessing that girls parents frequently give in if she persists, so she knows she just has to keep going. Intermittent reinforcement works for lab rats and motivated children

I would sweetly teach her that in our house once you asked and I’ve answered I’m not changing my mind. I would also put away the box so it wasn’t tempting her and I would be fine giving chips if I had them even if hadn’t really planned on it.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds normal to me. After she asked once I would have put the gift away. Kids might be uncomfortable with new foods.

I am getting so tired of the responses justifying all children’s bad behavior. So they ate four snacks but “might be uncomfortable with new foods”? Uh, ok.

I think it's over the top to say that a kid asking if they can have chips or a cookie is rude. You are well within your rights to say "no, we're having apple slices for snack" but the kid wanting a cookie just makes them a kid who has been given a cookie at a previous playdate and had high hopes. (Or, worst case scenario, the kid was legitimately hungry and is being demonized for being excited about having access to what seemed like unlimited food, but I would hope that OP would be at least somewhat sensitive to that dynamic.)

OP, leaving out a new toy in a box during a playdate and saying that it cannot be played with is a poor choice. If you don't want to play with it, you put it away before guests come over.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the kid doesn’t have impulse control and may be adhd.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the kid doesn’t have impulse control and may be adhd.