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Anonymous

11/30/2025 20:45 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

I guess everyone in here is like the old school Japanese. No child needs to bathe every day. If they do for smell, they need to see an endocrinologist.

I have a teen athlete that doesn't and he doesn't smell. We're also white so I get that other ethnicities have different needs.

Anonymous

11/29/2025 17:55 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

A 5 year old, neurotypical or not, is probably too young to be going to sleepovers. Just say no sleepovers at this age.

Anonymous

11/26/2025 22:44 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

You should never cut another child's nails without the parents permission. Wtf?! If it's a hygiene problem, mention it to the parent or tell them they can't play. Ou said it was dirt in the nails so just have them wash. Accept the child as they are.

Anonymous

11/11/2025 20:00 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:Just say no to sleepovers if you want. Just because someone asks for something doesn't mean you have to say yes to it.

This.

We never do sleepovers. Some families do. It is a choice.

Anonymous

11/10/2025 22:31 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Talk about missing the forest for the trees, OP. Why aren't you asking the question to the mom of why kid X is at your house 4 hours a day? The state of the kid's clothes is pretty irrelevant if mom is abdicating the parenting to you.

Anonymous

11/10/2025 22:30 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is 6 and his friend is one year younger and has autism. I’m very close with the mom and adore her dearly. I don’t know what’s going on and if she’s overwhelmed, but she’s always clean and well presented.

DS friend does have autism and it’s a bit of a fight but he relents eventually, I clipped his fingernails and toenails and put him in clean clothes on the third day. The clothes were visibly soiled.

What’s concerning is they’re asking for sleepovers, and I’m kind of concerned because my kid always go to bed after a bath and changes his clothes everyday. I don’t want to say anything to my friend but am gauging if anyone else lets their kid wear dirty clothes three days in a row? I feel bad.

If the child has autism, they may be very rigid about clothes and not willing to change them. It may not be her choice. Even if she buys multiple of the same outfit, I don't understand why you are clipping his toes and fingers and dealing with the clothing. This is super strange.

He's been at my house for 4+ hours/day since Friday, and he plays every day with my son. We've been doing kitchen crafts and baking, having lunch and playing and they've been jumping on the couch in the playroom. His fingernails and toenails were long and caked with dirt, it was a hygiene issue.

I hope you aren't serious. You should not be doing this without parents' permission. Kids should not be jumping on the couch. Supervise them instead of posting here. You sound just as bad.

If the mom leaves the kid at a friend's house for 4 hours plus a day, having that parent clip the nails of the kid is the least of her problems.

Anonymous

11/10/2025 14:05 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

As others have said, 6 is too young for sleepovers. And dirty fingernails aren’t going to kill anyone.

Please don’t embarrass the mother by senior her kid home in your kid’s clothes and handing her a bag with her kid’s dirty clothes in it. What did you tell her about that?

Sounds like you may have some hang-ups about hygiene?

Anonymous

11/10/2025 08:53 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

Who died and made you the shower police? Sounds like your kids just stink.

😆

Anonymous

11/10/2025 08:52 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

None of this is your business to take on.

Anonymous

11/10/2025 03:19 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

I said no to all sleepovers at age 6, even with kids with no hygiene issues.

But why not talk to the mom on day three if you were concerned

Anonymous

11/10/2025 02:28 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

Who died and made you the shower police? Sounds like your kids just stink.

My kids bathe daily so they don’t stink.

Anonymous

11/10/2025 02:23 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

I don’t know what to tell you. Not every 10 year old showers daily.

Mine didn’t. Not until puberty when hair gets greasy and sweat is a thing.

Some autistic kids that age can’t tolerate new clothes. My niece is autistic and my sister had to cut her nails when she was sleeping. Clothes were always an issue at that age.

Anonymous

11/09/2025 20:38 Subject: DS friend wearing the same clothes for three days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest doesn’t like to change his clothes. He’s 10.
I will fight with him and make him do it on school days, and he has to shower Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursday. But I often don’t fight the fight on the weekends. It’s not worth it.

I would just let it go. Maybe your friend is overwhelmed, but realistically, what are you going to do about it?

A ten-year-old should be showering daily. This sounds fake.

Who died and made you the shower police? Sounds like your kids just stink.