Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:30     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:DO you guys not realize that points are not FREE??

You have to earn them. And if he had not used them for their tickets, he could have used them for something else.

Charging them the amount the flights would have cost in dollars is absolutely fair.

This.
Mom and DD are the AHs. He used something that he could have turned in for cash or other perks and used them to buy tickets.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:26     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Adult DS, adult DD, and mom plan a vacation together. DS is in charge of getting the plane tickets, DD and mom send him money for their tickets.

They find out later on that DS used credit card points to buy the tickets and kept the cash. DS claims he was going to use it for expenses on the trip. DD and mom are upset because it feels like DS made a profit off their vacation.

Who is the AH? Should DS send the money back?


What DS did is extremely tacky. I would never do this, but I also likely wouldn't demand my money back either.

I'd just think he was a tacky/cheap person, I guess.


Yeah, this. Like the kind of person who would go out to eat/ a movie ticket with someone and bring a "buy one, get one free" coupon, and then insist that his was free because he brought the coupon.

The not tacky way to do it would be to disclose in advance and explain to everyone how using points makes it cheaper for them, too (which I suspect it didn't, so extra tacky).


It's not the same because the points have value. He could have used them for something else. It's all a wash, he didn't make money on it. He didn't explain it to mom and sister because they probably wouldn't have understood anyway.


Given the number of people here who don't understand it, I don't blame him.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:18     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Adult DS, adult DD, and mom plan a vacation together. DS is in charge of getting the plane tickets, DD and mom send him money for their tickets.

They find out later on that DS used credit card points to buy the tickets and kept the cash. DS claims he was going to use it for expenses on the trip. DD and mom are upset because it feels like DS made a profit off their vacation.

Who is the AH? Should DS send the money back?


What DS did is extremely tacky. I would never do this, but I also likely wouldn't demand my money back either.

I'd just think he was a tacky/cheap person, I guess.


Yeah, this. Like the kind of person who would go out to eat/ a movie ticket with someone and bring a "buy one, get one free" coupon, and then insist that his was free because he brought the coupon.

The not tacky way to do it would be to disclose in advance and explain to everyone how using points makes it cheaper for them, too (which I suspect it didn't, so extra tacky).


It's not the same because the points have value. He could have used them for something else. It's all a wash, he didn't make money on it. He didn't explain it to mom and sister because they probably wouldn't have understood anyway.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:08     Subject: Re:Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:Mom and DD got tickets. End of story.

I don't understand how this is even a question.


I agree.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:07     Subject: Who is the AH here?
He should have been upfront from the get go.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 14:00     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Adult DS, adult DD, and mom plan a vacation together. DS is in charge of getting the plane tickets, DD and mom send him money for their tickets.

They find out later on that DS used credit card points to buy the tickets and kept the cash. DS claims he was going to use it for expenses on the trip. DD and mom are upset because it feels like DS made a profit off their vacation.

Who is the AH? Should DS send the money back?


What DS did is extremely tacky. I would never do this, but I also likely wouldn't demand my money back either.

I'd just think he was a tacky/cheap person, I guess.


Yeah, this. Like the kind of person who would go out to eat/ a movie ticket with someone and bring a "buy one, get one free" coupon, and then insist that his was free because he brought the coupon.

The not tacky way to do it would be to disclose in advance and explain to everyone how using points makes it cheaper for them, too (which I suspect it didn't, so extra tacky).
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 13:38     Subject: Who is the AH here?
DS is not the AH.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 13:33     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's tacky. He should have disclosed and let them decide.


Agreed. Its not tacky that he did it this way, its tacky that he didnt share that in the beginning. It just seems like he was trying to be sneaky and hide it. So even he knew it wasn't totally above board.


He most likely didn't disclose it, because he knew that mom and sister will throw a fit and accuse him of being and AH by not giving them "free" tickets.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 13:24     Subject: Who is the AH here?
What do you mean he kept the cash? He wasn't going to buy the tickets with cash anyway. It was always going on his credit card one way or the other. He doesn't owe it to them to discuss how the transaction was paid for, they asked for tickets, and got tickets.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:57     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:It's tacky. He should have disclosed and let them decide.


Agreed. Its not tacky that he did it this way, its tacky that he didnt share that in the beginning. It just seems like he was trying to be sneaky and hide it. So even he knew it wasn't totally above board.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:53     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Anonymous wrote:Team DS.
I'd only want to know if he had to work around blackout dates or get worse times, etc.

I also want to know how he figured what to charge.


There's still a cash price for the tickets, isn't there?At least that's how my credit card points work. You pay for the tickets and then you pay some points to get a credit on the statement equal to the cost of the travel.

I do this with travel we book for my MIL and she reimburses us at the charged cost of the ticket.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:52     Subject: Who is the AH here?
How he figured what to charge is easy online, current rates. Points are not free. DD and mom are AH. Next time buy your own tickets. You blame DS to be and AH, when in fact you are, since you wanted free tickets.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:49     Subject: Who is the AH here?
Team DS.
I'd only want to know if he had to work around blackout dates or get worse times, etc.

I also want to know how he figured what to charge.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:45     Subject: Who is the AH here?
It's tacky. He should have disclosed and let them decide.
Anonymous
Post 11/06/2025 12:44     Subject: Who is the AH here?
whomp whomp

DS is fine