Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 22:08     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Yes, there is a way. If she’s into kinky sex, you know she will maintain her sex drive forever.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 21:45     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Women's hormones change, there is no way she can predict what will happen.

The only female friends I know who are hyper sexual after menopause have bipolar disorder and go through regular manic sex fiend episodes.


Maybe I don't know what you mean by "hyper sexual," but my post-menopausal girlfriend has a high sex drive and is very in touch with her body, but is also the most emotionally put-together woman I've ever known closely. We have an awesome sex life and very little drama outside the bedroom, despite having plenty of circumstances in our lives that could give rise to drama. So, my answer to OP is: find a post-menopausal woman who's sexually aligned with you and you'll be all set.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 21:34     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Don’t get married and you’ll be fine. Dating is for fun and sex, marriage is for raising kids. As soon as a woman is locked in she feels like a captive and will start to resent you no matter what you do. Kids multiply that. There’s no amount of house work, money earning, organizing, dating, gifts, etc that will make it easier to have sex with her than the woman standing in the line next to you at Starbucks. The 95% of things you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% she can find issue with matters - and she hates you for it.

So, define your goals with relationships. If being attracted to a partner, having a fun and sexy relationship is what you want - Dating is the way to go. If you want to have and raise children and are mostly done with sex - marriage is the right path.


Damn, bro. It's like everyone BUT YOU can see why you don't get laid.


He’s not wrong. Women just aren’t wired to be sexually attracted to the same person for years. Without novelty their sex drive dies. Take a look at the stats on Lesbian divorce and dead bedrooms and you’ll find that it’s even worse.

Yup.


Agreed. If you have a good marriage and a guy jumps through all the hoops she’ll still love you with minimal resentment. She may even have sex with you occasionally because you’re a good person. But sexually WANT you? Not happening. The new bf after divorce (when its novel again) will get the sexual version of her with a tidied up appearance. Then she’lll say “My ex was abusive and I just couldn’t bare to sleep with him because he gave me the ick. Now that ai’m in my 50’s and with someone who doesn’t disagree with me ever, I can’t get enough. Its like I’m 20.”
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 20:30     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Don’t get married and you’ll be fine. Dating is for fun and sex, marriage is for raising kids. As soon as a woman is locked in she feels like a captive and will start to resent you no matter what you do. Kids multiply that. There’s no amount of house work, money earning, organizing, dating, gifts, etc that will make it easier to have sex with her than the woman standing in the line next to you at Starbucks. The 95% of things you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% she can find issue with matters - and she hates you for it.

So, define your goals with relationships. If being attracted to a partner, having a fun and sexy relationship is what you want - Dating is the way to go. If you want to have and raise children and are mostly done with sex - marriage is the right path.


Damn, bro. It's like everyone BUT YOU can see why you don't get laid.


He’s not wrong. Women just aren’t wired to be sexually attracted to the same person for years. Without novelty their sex drive dies. Take a look at the stats on Lesbian divorce and dead bedrooms and you’ll find that it’s even worse.

Yup.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 18:02     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes. The way to determine this is to first determine whether the man will continue to make her feel desirable and continue his interest in her as a human. Determine whether he will stay fit, take on half the mental load in their relationship, and see her as a human being and enjoy growing together with her.

Correct.
Every woman however will go through menopause and will not be like in their 20s no matter what you do.


HRT begs to differ.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:56     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Answer is most likely no, no matter what performative nonsense women on here would have you believe.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:42     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
I’m female and it was something I considered too while dating. I wanted to make sure my husband didn’t become sexless. While choreplay is important, so is my husband still maintaining his body and mind. I find chubby guys with no interests completely unsexy
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:35     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Don’t get married and you’ll be fine. Dating is for fun and sex, marriage is for raising kids. As soon as a woman is locked in she feels like a captive and will start to resent you no matter what you do. Kids multiply that. There’s no amount of house work, money earning, organizing, dating, gifts, etc that will make it easier to have sex with her than the woman standing in the line next to you at Starbucks. The 95% of things you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% she can find issue with matters - and she hates you for it.

So, define your goals with relationships. If being attracted to a partner, having a fun and sexy relationship is what you want - Dating is the way to go. If you want to have and raise children and are mostly done with sex - marriage is the right path.


You sound like you are a misogynist. Just so you know.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:32     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:Shouldn't you care about the woman as a person? Instead of just a hole?


👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:29     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
At 50 l still have a pretty high libido but l stopped having sex with ex husband at around 40 because he was treating me badly. I would actually cringe involuntarily when he touched me.

I doubt OP understands the difference between low libido and a bad relationship though.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:29     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:In my early 30s, exDH and I had sex 2-3x/day multiple days and always at least daily. And then came the kids.

I wasn't getting sleep at night because I was with the kids. I was running around during the day because I was with the kids. The kids felt more connected to me and always wanted me. Someone was always touching me. Then exDH would want to have sex and it felt like one more chore.

Our 2nd child had significant SN. I was working, managing the older child, and getting called in the middle of the day to come pick up our younger child. The younger child would meltdown and throw the entire house into chaos. Once I finally got him calmed down and the oldest into bed, exDH wanted to have sex.

I didn't want to have sex, I just wanted the day to end. In the morning I didn't want sex because I was waking up to someone crying.

I'm 54 now and dating a 60 yr old. I'm back to having sex 2-3 times when we see each other multiple times per week. Does this mean that my libido subsided or was I overwhelmed by life and kids and needed more help that I wasn't getting?


Well stated.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:28     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
There is no way.

It is probably more likely that you will lose the ability to perform.

It is a sad statement that this is your biggest concern in choosing a life partner.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:22     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
You are right to be concerned. My libido would also decrease if I were married to a man who said that was his biggest concern about marriage. Without seeming to understand that a decrease in libido is sometimes tied to his own efforts, or lack thereof.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:20     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Women's hormones change, there is no way she can predict what will happen.

The only female friends I know who are hyper sexual after menopause have bipolar disorder and go through regular manic sex fiend episodes.
Anonymous
Post 11/05/2025 17:11     Subject: Is there any way of knowing if a woman will keep her strong libido over time?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When dating someone in their 30s or early 40s, and the sex in the relationship is great. Is there a way of knowing if the woman will maintain her drive as she ages? This is my biggest concern as a man.


Don’t get married and you’ll be fine. Dating is for fun and sex, marriage is for raising kids. As soon as a woman is locked in she feels like a captive and will start to resent you no matter what you do. Kids multiply that. There’s no amount of house work, money earning, organizing, dating, gifts, etc that will make it easier to have sex with her than the woman standing in the line next to you at Starbucks. The 95% of things you do right don’t matter. Only the 5% she can find issue with matters - and she hates you for it.

So, define your goals with relationships. If being attracted to a partner, having a fun and sexy relationship is what you want - Dating is the way to go. If you want to have and raise children and are mostly done with sex - marriage is the right path.


Damn, bro. It's like everyone BUT YOU can see why you don't get laid.


He’s not wrong. Women just aren’t wired to be sexually attracted to the same person for years. Without novelty their sex drive dies. Take a look at the stats on Lesbian divorce and dead bedrooms and you’ll find that it’s even worse.