Anonymous wrote:Ma’am, this is the Family Relationships forum in November. This is our Super Bowl. Come to play with a real problem or hot tea, or stay away until February. It’s the beginning of the holiday season. Show some respect.

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Anonymous wrote:After dealing with difficult inlaws for half a lifetime, I'm to the point that they get tough love. If they cant figure out what they want to eat after a half hour, I shut them down fast and tell them I'm going to order something because we aren't going to wait.

This. “Ok let us know what you decide. I’m going to go pickup the sushi that DH and I like.”

Why are you letting yourself be held hostage? Retiree boomers love to hem and haw over everything. They don’t have anything else going on (work/kids’ activities/etc.). Just keep living your life. Who cares if they are picky.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

While my FIL loves fast food, MIL will not eat it. I was sick and not cooking. Yes, I want to vent. We offered a diner as they usually love diners, then a couple American restaurants, then chinese, nothing good enough.

You’re a regular fount of excuses.

Nah, this scenario is typical enough that there is a popular instagram influencer who posts about this exact scenario with boomer parents (note even in the video, a diner is poo pooed).

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFDLIqlRKpv/

Very true and my MIL is definitely like this, says she is not picky and in the end just wants plain chicken and a side salad

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Anonymous wrote:It is “easy” to host people who like “normal” American things so I’m sure that’s what they mean. It’s easy to find TGIFridays, Applebee’s, a diner, a burger joint…

But OP wants to show off her superior culinary preferences, and they’re not cooperating!

Anonymous wrote:I’ve got picky in-laws, but I also have two brain cells to rub together, and a memory more reliable than that of a goldfish, so DH and I always have a plan and a backup.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

While my FIL loves fast food, MIL will not eat it. I was sick and not cooking. Yes, I want to vent. We offered a diner as they usually love diners, then a couple American restaurants, then chinese, nothing good enough.

You’re a regular fount of excuses.

Nah, this scenario is typical enough that there is a popular instagram influencer who posts about this exact scenario with boomer parents (note even in the video, a diner is poo pooed).

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFDLIqlRKpv/

Very true and my MIL is definitely like this, says she is not picky and in the end just wants plain chicken and a side salad

Do you not know how to roast a chicken? Does DH not know how? Or you can’t get one from the grocery?

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

OP is extremely annoying.

You posters who think women should be doormats to their ils are the worst.

It would be doormat scenario if they were demanding, elaborate, expensive meal. My goodness, get a Stouffer’s lasagna, a bag salad and STFU.

Anonymous wrote:After dealing with difficult inlaws for half a lifetime, I'm to the point that they get tough love. If they cant figure out what they want to eat after a half hour, I shut them down fast and tell them I'm going to order something because we aren't going to wait.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

OP is extremely annoying.

You posters who think women should be doormats to their ils are the worst.

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Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

While my FIL loves fast food, MIL will not eat it. I was sick and not cooking. Yes, I want to vent. We offered a diner as they usually love diners, then a couple American restaurants, then chinese, nothing good enough.

You’re a regular fount of excuses.

Nah, this scenario is typical enough that there is a popular instagram influencer who posts about this exact scenario with boomer parents (note even in the video, a diner is poo pooed).

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFDLIqlRKpv/

Very true and my MIL is definitely like this, says she is not picky and in the end just wants plain chicken and a side salad

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it, because my Dad is an extremely picky eater, but at least he “owns it” and we can plan around it.

That being said? You and DH know, by now, what they will and will not actually eat. So make a basic plan for their visits.

Think of the top 3 make-at-home meals you know they’ll eat, and think of the top 3 order-out meals or restaurant meals you know they’ll eat. Bam! You now have your plan forevermore.

Like, what are you even doing looking at different restaurant menus, etc.? You know by now. I can rattle off 3 takeout restaurants my dad will order from, and what he’ll order. Why are you playing games?

Do your thinking, do your research, now you have your plans.

You whining about knowing full well what will and will not work for them, despite what they say, is as useless and annoying as them saying they’re easy but then being picky.

We do thus, but were finding something from a specific geographic location as DH was dropping off DS at a friend's house 25 min away and picking up on his drive back. And I had hoped a diner would suffice but my FIL complained that the food wouldn't travel well.

Come off it. You know what’s always around? McDonald’s.

Plus, DH was returning to your house, correct? You don’t live in a food desert, do you? And if for some reason (I’m sure you’ll list a quickly made-up excuse) you couldn’t pick up food yourself, it’s called DoorDash.

You wanted to complain about your ILs. Fine. But admit this was just a vent and not actually a problem. Because feeding picky people is actually quite easy when they are picky in a predictable, never-changing, “all-American” way. As if you can’t make spaghetti at home. As if you can’t use Uber Eats. Come off it.

While my FIL loves fast food, MIL will not eat it. I was sick and not cooking. Yes, I want to vent. We offered a diner as they usually love diners, then a couple American restaurants, then chinese, nothing good enough.