I think a sincere expression of overwhelming lust/ passion comes out as dominance, and I love that. I don't need to be restrained or spanked, and if he says something degrading or deliberately hurts me, it's over. BUT. For him to want me so much that he loses control/ finesse, and does what HE wants without being quite as solicitous/ careful? that's hot. My guy is a little too considerate, to the point that it sometimes feels like he's not that into it.

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Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Maybe not real choking but a lot of women want to be held down and to have the guy be aggressive. Dh is very strong and there was no way I could get my hands out of his grip. It was really hot.

I knew he’d never hurt me though. Usually he immediately stops and asks if he hurt me which is a major turn off. Stop being so sensitive and be an alpha in bed! Dh also likes it when I take charge and ride him and get my own pleasure off him.

How old are you and DH?

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Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Maybe not real choking but a lot of women want to be held down and to have the guy be aggressive. Dh is very strong and there was no way I could get my hands out of his grip. It was really hot.

I knew he’d never hurt me though. Usually he immediately stops and asks if he hurt me which is a major turn off. Stop being so sensitive and be an alpha in bed! Dh also likes it when I take charge and ride him and get my own pleasure off him.

Guy here. Just tell him you need to be held down and used in order to O. Easy.

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Your asking this isn’t dominant.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Women love being spanked. I can’t speak for choking.

Former GF loved to be spanked. Current one, not so much.

Too many boys are larping masculinity by just being loud, pushy, and obnoxious. I’ll be damned if some pudgy potato who can’t even change a flat tire and thinks “masculinity” is ranting in YouTube comments sections is going to try to boss me around in or out of the bedroom.

Both men and women should be able to change a tire. I taught both my sons and daughters to do so that they are not waiting around for a "white knight" to do it for them.

However, the idea that masculinity is defined by being able to perform manual labor is stupid. If I have a free weekend afternoon, I am not going to work on changing my oil. First, I do not enjoy doing so.

Next, I am better off doing something that makes me better at my job (I am a partner in BigLaw firm) than doing "tasks" around the house.

And, no, I do not think doing both works. If I am going to be the best at what I do, I need to put in the effort. Every minute I spend doing something I do not know how to do (like fixing a car) is a minute away from what I am best at.

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Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Choking (technically strangulation) is dangerous and shouldn’t be done, but most women love having a hand on their throat.

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Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Women love being spanked. I can’t speak for choking.

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

Dominant does not equal choking. Porn had normalized this; it’s dangerous and not a common kink for women.

Anonymous wrote:In the bedroom. Has this ever successfully worked in your relationship? I find men can be too passive, which isn’t attractive.

Things you can say:

“take me, big boy.”

“Harder! Eff me harder!”

“Choke me!”

“Put it in my ass!”

Anonymous wrote:So sick of these troll threads

Agreed. It’s like MAGA is trying to lifestyle promote here. Nobody is falling for it.

Anonymous wrote:Would I be considered dominant? In the bedroom I take my girlfriend's clothes off, I suggest positions with taking account her preference of course but often she is happy the direction I'm taking us, I eat her out without her asking me, I talk dirty etc..

If not, whats a dominant man?

I'm not into choking l, spanking, handcuffs and all that..

OMG you’re not dominant, lol. You’re mild mannered

Too many guys fail to understand:

gentle + tender does not add up to: passion.

I bought him a book about rope.