Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 22:55     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here is an insurance agencies stats for losses at private schools:
https://bitnerhenry.com/child-sexual-abuse-is-the-second-most-frequent-loss-at-religious-institutions/

24% of financial losses for religious schools are for child sex abuse.


Yes, that link does not compare religious vs non-religious schools. Maybe you should go back to school to learn how to read again.

+1 those stats are for religious institutions, which would include things like churches and camps as well, not just schools, and would not include secular private schools.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 21:32     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:Here is an insurance agencies stats for losses at private schools:
https://bitnerhenry.com/child-sexual-abuse-is-the-second-most-frequent-loss-at-religious-institutions/

24% of financial losses for religious schools are for child sex abuse.


Yes, that link does not compare religious vs non-religious schools. Maybe you should go back to school to learn how to read again.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 21:07     Subject: Re:Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Not ok. These are minors.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 21:00     Subject: Re:Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:Interestingly, a common piece of advice for helping your kids to protect themselves against adults with bad intentions is that they should stay far away from anyone who asks them to keep something secret from their parents.


I see what you’re saying but also note some distinctions here. Those “bad secrets” are about the adult and their conduct. Here, nobody is making kids keep a secret. Rather, schools are trying to create safe spaces for students. I personally don’t need to know every single activity and club my kid participates in at school. If you build trust with your children, they should feel comfortable sharing details about their day.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 19:22     Subject: Re:Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:Interestingly, a common piece of advice for helping your kids to protect themselves against adults with bad intentions is that they should stay far away from anyone who asks them to keep something secret from their parents.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 19:21     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Not sure about religious ones. The top school schools in dc have many cases of molestation that were hidden to the parents.


Smaller religious privates are breeding grounds for abuse. The stats show this.


Show me the stats for dc and you will notice that is not the case


Wrong
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 17:00     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Here is an insurance agencies stats for losses at private schools:
https://bitnerhenry.com/child-sexual-abuse-is-the-second-most-frequent-loss-at-religious-institutions/

24% of financial losses for religious schools are for child sex abuse.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 16:54     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Yep. OP if you want a lot of oversight, your kids need to go to public schools.


A principal in a public school did something very similar to this to a colleague's kids (and to other kids in the same grade) some years ago (not recently). Colleague's kids handed the parent the actual printed questionnaire from the school, so it was not a case of a kid being confused. Those kids *never* went back to that school. They homeschooled temporarily until could get their kids into a secular private.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 16:28     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

I think it is ok for club membership at school to be no reportable to parents - but I wouldn't announce this as something specific just to certain clubs - but to all clubs. Saying - kids should sign up for what you want to sign up for during in-school club time. It's your choice of how to spend this time - not reported to parents.

Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 15:30     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Yep. OP if you want a lot of oversight, your kids need to go to public schools.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 15:16     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Not sure about religious ones. The top school schools in dc have many cases of molestation that were hidden to the parents.


Smaller religious privates are breeding grounds for abuse. The stats show this.


Show me the stats for dc and you will notice that is not the case
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 14:56     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Not sure about religious ones. The top school schools in dc have many cases of molestation that were hidden to the parents.


Smaller religious privates are breeding grounds for abuse. The stats show this.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 14:55     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Its everywhere and its not ok to teach kids to keep secrets as that is how abuse happens.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 14:54     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Anonymous wrote:Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.


Not sure about religious ones. The top school schools in dc have many cases of molestation that were hidden to the parents.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2025 14:52     Subject: Keeping stuff from parents in the private schools?

Private schools have way less oversite than publics.

They hide shit all the time.

Especially religious ones.