Anonymous wrote:Here’s how I got over my crush. I focused on things I found even slightly annoying about his personality and just imagined us being together and me being super annoyed by these traits — like he wasn’t a great listener so I just imagined us fighting about how he never listened to me, etc. I also imagined waking up next to him with bad morning breath, farting, having bad personal hygiene. I was pretty disciplined about replacing fantasy thoughts with these thoughts every time and it eventually faded away.

This works as a crush killer, but be mindful of what you're training your brain. All humans wake up with morning breath, unless they don't wake up breathing. All humans fart. All humans have weird personal hygiene habits, at least sometimes (I'm not quite 24 hours out of surgery, and I know I look about as off as I feel!). And be real: not everyone is going to be an attentive listener all the time, or even realistically most of it. While ruminating on these aspects of your crush's humanity may kill the crush, it may also impact your ability to love actual humans in their full humanity some day, which will impact your relationships. "I thought they were so DREAMY until I saw them as a whole person" is a weird vibe.

Anonymous wrote:Here’s how I got over my crush. I focused on things I found even slightly annoying about his personality and just imagined us being together and me being super annoyed by these traits — like he wasn’t a great listener so I just imagined us fighting about how he never listened to me, etc. I also imagined waking up next to him with bad morning breath, farting, having bad personal hygiene. I was pretty disciplined about replacing fantasy thoughts with these thoughts every time and it eventually faded away.

Thank you. I m not op but in similar situations.

Op this too shall pass. Be strong

Here’s how I got over my crush. I focused on things I found even slightly annoying about his personality and just imagined us being together and me being super annoyed by these traits — like he wasn’t a great listener so I just imagined us fighting about how he never listened to me, etc. I also imagined waking up next to him with bad morning breath, farting, having bad personal hygiene. I was pretty disciplined about replacing fantasy thoughts with these thoughts every time and it eventually faded away.

Don't worry you'll eventually find out he's a total sociopath and the crush will die.
Unless you're like me and figure the fact that he's nuts might make him really good in bed then ymmv

Get under the desk/offer to help in the supply room

Anonymous wrote:Are you married?

The only times I felt that all consuming response to a crush was when my marriage was in the rocks and my husband was being cruel. It’s tiny glimmer of hope and it’s something to latch onto when you’re drowning. Just a thought.

This. I started developing a crush at work when DH started neglecting me. I was so painfully lonely.

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Anonymous wrote:Look up limerance. Do you have ADHD?

What is the link between adhd and limerence?

https://www.additudemag.com/limerence-adhd-falling-in-love-quickly/?srsltid=AfmBOooO2n5_311NVUSVg6Q7gQg5G3gz_sngit82I7TrVPjdBSkVlQ2_

Anonymous wrote:Look up limerance. Do you have ADHD?

What is the link between adhd and limerence?

Look up limerance. Do you have ADHD?

You either pursue it proactively (ask him out) or you talk yourself out of the crush and forget about him.