Anonymous wrote:My last job these turned into Indian pow wows

All IT and mostly Indians talking about Ashburn.

Lol

My last job these turned into Indian pow wows

All IT and mostly Indians talking about Ashburn.

Anonymous wrote:Farewell HHs are really for the people staying. The company doesn’t care about the person on their last day of work.

Exactly. At a funeral you are not there for the dead person, you are there for the family and friends.

Probably what happened is it was sparsely attended and the boss is just making rounds expressing his displeasure about that.

This is the kind of thing you should make an effort to get to, but obviously sometimes you can't because of a legit conflict.

If you can't go, make sure to decline gracefully. Say you have a conflict, and write something nice about the departing person.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you were in the wrong. You should have known that it's always potentially useful to get to know your colleagues better, especially in an office where there isn't much interaction.

It's not a grave mistake at all. But just an error in judgement that you won't make again.

+1 Excellent, accurate, reasonable response.

Definitely do every social thing that’s offered for at least the first 2 years at a new job.

It’s okay; learn from it and move on.

It was nice of your boss to tell you what he wants instead if you having to guess. So now you know.

Anonymous wrote:You aren't in the wrong, but you are bad at office politics.

+1

I go to a fair number of these even though I don't drink. Which makes them kind of sucky.

I would hate having to go to happy hours, it’s an introvert’s nightmare. I wouldn’t go. I am also bad at office politics, and networking, and now have a stagnant career.

So maybe do the opposite of me and you’ll be fine.

OP, I was once a newbie at a job and there was a going away party for someone I had not met. I asked another newbie coworker if he was going and he said, "No, that's weird, I do not know her." I went and left within ten minutes because it felt so awkward.

Anonymous wrote:Farewell HHs are really for the people staying. The company doesn’t care about the person on their last day of work.

If that was the case, management would do nothing. Worked at a few places where all you got was a goodbye.

Under telework, I always prioritized these things, switching days in if necessary, and it definitely helped the way everyone saw me. We havent had any this year, though, and likely won't as long as we are in every day anyway.

Going to a happy hour for someone I never met sounds awkward as hell.

Anonymous wrote:Farewell HHs are really for the people staying. The company doesn’t care about the person on their last day of work.

+100