I don't understand the question.

You have plans with another couple, you're sick and can't make it, do you order takeout to "give them a meal"? No. You do not. You cancel and apologize and reschedule for later. They might want to still go out or make other plans.

If you are saying they are sick, you ask if you can help but leave it alone. When I am sick I want the food I want and my family is capable of getting it for me. I don't want stuff I don't want. Pints of ice cream or a gift card or something, sure. But seems totally unecessary in this case.

This is not like paying a sitter after you cancel

Anonymous wrote:It would be very unusual for my family to bring anything other than leftovers home from a restaurant.

We would assume that a sick person who stayed home would likely eat differently (and eat homemade dishes) due to their illness.

It would never occur to me to order food to go from a restaurant I was dining in at. My spouse wouldn’t either. I would typically bring home leftovers assuming they might eat them though, so I would likely think of their tastes a bit when selecting dishes (assuming non stomach affecting illness). But also… it depends on the age of the kids. If the kids are little, taking two out solo might actually be difficult and so not at all like healthy spouse is getting a treat.

Yes, I would being something home for the sick spouse, or stop by somewhere else to pick something up for them if I knew we didn't have any soup or something like it already available.

The responses here 1) explain why so many posters are on this sub complaining about their inconsiderate spouses and 2) demonstrate that A LOT of your mothers took Tylenol while pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

And that take out is still in the fridge 3 days later because she still has the flu and is only drinking ginger ale. No...it is not assumed.

+1. We don't have the budget to throw away restaurant food, so I need to know that you want food and what you'd like. This is one of those times where you need to be a big girl and use your words.

Then eat it on day 2 when its clear they won't. This isnt hard unless youre dumb.

OP is apparently too dumb to feed herself when she's sick.

Whenever my wife is sick I get her McDonalds fries and a chocolate shake to make her feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

And that take out is still in the fridge 3 days later because she still has the flu and is only drinking ginger ale. No...it is not assumed.

+1. We don't have the budget to throw away restaurant food, so I need to know that you want food and what you'd like. This is one of those times where you need to be a big girl and use your words.

Then eat it on day 2 when its clear they won't. This isnt hard unless youre dumb.

No, if they are sick, they are sick. It would be a waste to bring food home for an incredibly sick person who was too sick to go out to eat with friends.

Most sicknesses affect appetite and digestion and food taste and what people want to eat when sick is very specific to the moment and to the individual.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

Thanks for clarifying. Yes we have both done so.

And adding that we communicate before if we want or need the food. It just depends . Always communicate and never expect mind reading from either spouse.

Spouse and I would ask each other in this situation. He’s clueless and would have no idea what I would like from a given restaurant without asking me, even if I was healthy.

Even when there’s no restaurant involved, if one of us is sick, the other will ask if there’s anything we can pick up for them (cough drops, popsicles, special bread for toast, Gatorade).

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Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

And that take out is still in the fridge 3 days later because she still has the flu and is only drinking ginger ale. No...it is not assumed.

+1. We don't have the budget to throw away restaurant food, so I need to know that you want food and what you'd like. This is one of those times where you need to be a big girl and use your words.

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Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

exactly!

It would be very unusual for my family to bring anything other than leftovers home from a restaurant.

We would assume that a sick person who stayed home would likely eat differently (and eat homemade dishes) due to their illness.

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Anonymous wrote:People are overthinking this. YES if you stay home and your spouse and kids go out to dinner, they should bring you home something FOR SURE!!

They aren't over thinking t. They are bending over backwards to make the sick spouse the inconsiderate party here.

If your spouse goes out to dinner, while you are sick in bed, and they come home empty handed, you married a shitty person.

The spouse said they couldn’t it to dinner, she should have said what she’d like to eat from the restaurant.

It does not sound like OP was that sick. If it was just a headache type thing then he would probably ask if I wanted something. Fever/flu etc no he would probably think I just wanted to sleep and not be disturbed.