Anonymous wrote:Soon enough your kid won't want to go to the summer house all summer anymore and you'll be SOL. Or, let him bring a friend he does want to hang out with for the weekend. You have to let them lead in middle school anyway.

This is more happening in our hometown. I am just making the point it’s not as easy just to totally fade away.

Soon enough your kid won't want to go to the summer house all summer anymore and you'll be SOL. Or, let him bring a friend he does want to hang out with for the weekend. You have to let them lead in middle school anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Did you family ever invite this kid over for a sleepover?

It's OK to have plans with two different friends at different times on the same day.

Yes we have.

Yes it is. and my son said the issue wasn’t that they were having a sleepover, it was them telling him about it knowing he’s not invited and then leaving together and arriving together when we had plans just to meet up with the one kid. I’m low key about that but would have appreciated a head ups she is bringing another child. My son just said he’s been taught it’s rude to talk about plans to people who weren’t invited and I agree.

Did you family ever invite this kid over for a sleepover?

It's OK to have plans with two different friends at different times on the same day.

She’s very rude but that won’t change because you “say something to her.” If things change and it starts to borrow your son then I’d decline invites otherwise if your son is okay just roll your eyes privately at her lack of manners.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like that this other family is treating your kid like the “fall back option” when their son is transitioning between new besties.

Exactly, that’s the issue. And the mom showing up with the friend and talking about the sleepover in front of my son when he’s just as much friends with the other friend as well.

It’s just off putting. I also think it’s weird for a 9 year old to have conflict or falling outs with a close friend year after year like he’s having with the other friend, to the point where they aren’t friends at all after hanging out everyday for a year. We haven’t experienced that. I don’t love these social dynamics for kids this age.

I don’t like that this other family is treating your kid like the “fall back option” when their son is transitioning between new besties.

I don’t have anyone like this where kids go to the same school and have been family friends. I do have two teenage boys and they did not stay best friends since preschool or early elementary.

You are lucky they are still even in the same friend circle.