Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:58     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Healthy sex drives.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:57     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Hot wife


Ok then also hot husband. Sex is a two person sport.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:46     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.


I don’t disagree but I’m troubled that you describe such a woman as a “freak.” This is a large part of the problem. Women are socialized NOT to learn how to please themselves, or have a dirty mind, and when they do, you call them a freak (and probably a “slut” they you would bang but not marry if you met her in college). Yet, that’s who you wish you married 20 years later when your “nice girl” wife is over sex.

Maybe we need to think about raising boys and men not to be so judgmental about women who are comfortable so the their bodies and sex, so there are more of them!


Amen!
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:46     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.


Honestly? This is closer to the average woman than you seem to think. My freak flag flies higher than most of the men I've met; y'all have trouble keeping up.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:43     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Having a big p nis. [/quote

+8]
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 10:40     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.


I don’t disagree but I’m troubled that you describe such a woman as a “freak.” This is a large part of the problem. Women are socialized NOT to learn how to please themselves, or have a dirty mind, and when they do, you call them a freak (and probably a “slut” they you would bang but not marry if you met her in college). Yet, that’s who you wish you married 20 years later when your “nice girl” wife is over sex.

Maybe we need to think about raising boys and men not to be so judgmental about women who are comfortable so the their bodies and sex, so there are more of them!
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 09:21     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:Physical fitness and personal hygiene.


I don’t know that it’s this. Nearly everyone on here (and everyone I know IRL) who complains about a sexless marriage describes themselves and their spouse as being physically fit and attractive.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 09:19     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.


I think there might be something to this.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 07:39     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.

This is me. I think the key is being comfortable with your body and knowing what it likes to feel, and a sex partner who does, too.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 07:05     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
If you both work, you need to find somewhere to dump the kids regularly.

By the time our oldest gets to bed each night, we are spent.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 07:04     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Quitting my job which finally gave me some time for myself (outside of the house, kids, and husband). I could never find the balance between work and life. Afterwards, I had more energy, less stress, and more time to focus on the house, kids, and husband. Of course, we are comfortable on one income, but this was the key factor for me.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 07:01     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Not being married.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 06:41     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
If it’s a priority, putting family resources behind it.

Being someone your partner wants to have sex with.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 06:27     Subject: Most important factor for strong sex life
Anonymous wrote:I read smutty romance books and they do honestly get me in the mood. Paired with excellent foreplay, and that’s the key for me.


+1 I read a favorite excerpt if I'm short on time and know he's wanting it.
Anonymous
Post 09/16/2025 05:26     Subject: Re:Most important factor for strong sex life
The wife needs to be a bit of a freak. Someone who learned how to please herself at a young age and has a dirtier-than-average mind. That’s to get her closer to the wavelength of the average guy.