Anonymous
09/16/2025 17:42
Subject: This job search is depressing
Sending support your way OP. Hang in there. You are doing great—take it one day at a time.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 16:55
Subject: This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My daughter is angry with me because she had to quit activities she loves because I don’t have the money. I feel like a failure.
Is that the HS senior?
Tell the princess to get a job and contribute toward her upkeep.
She works in the summer time and sometimes babysits for families at her dance studio. I prefer her main focus to be on school during the school year as she struggles badly if she has too much on her plate.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 16:53
Subject: This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:I am praying for you as well OP.
As someone who has been to the dark side several times throughout my life, I can share that I understand the feeling. The only thing that has helped in those times is taking a step back. A step way, way back, as in outside your body and outside your ego back. These material things in our lives are all just an illusion and not reflective of your true self - the self that your family, friends, and community needs.
We go through these trials in life and they are deeply painful and isolating. They are also temporary and dearly needed so that we can develop the compassion and fortitude we were meant to learn in this life.
This moment is simply a moment. I am in no way making light of your situation. There are services for food, housing and the like if you get to that point. There are also other people who have walked in your shoes and know that there comes that one spark that starts to shift the tide. That spark will come to you, please hang on, grit your teeth and wait for it.
All the love to you OP.
Thank you!
Anonymous
09/16/2025 16:52
Subject: This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:What was your job op?
I was a government contractor, more specifically worked in Project Management.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 16:26
Subject: This job search is depressing
I am praying for you as well OP.
As someone who has been to the dark side several times throughout my life, I can share that I understand the feeling. The only thing that has helped in those times is taking a step back. A step way, way back, as in outside your body and outside your ego back. These material things in our lives are all just an illusion and not reflective of your true self - the self that your family, friends, and community needs.
We go through these trials in life and they are deeply painful and isolating. They are also temporary and dearly needed so that we can develop the compassion and fortitude we were meant to learn in this life.
This moment is simply a moment. I am in no way making light of your situation. There are services for food, housing and the like if you get to that point. There are also other people who have walked in your shoes and know that there comes that one spark that starts to shift the tide. That spark will come to you, please hang on, grit your teeth and wait for it.
All the love to you OP.
As someone who has been to the dark side several times throughout my life, I can share that I understand the feeling. The only thing that has helped in those times is taking a step back. A step way, way back, as in outside your body and outside your ego back. These material things in our lives are all just an illusion and not reflective of your true self - the self that your family, friends, and community needs.
We go through these trials in life and they are deeply painful and isolating. They are also temporary and dearly needed so that we can develop the compassion and fortitude we were meant to learn in this life.
This moment is simply a moment. I am in no way making light of your situation. There are services for food, housing and the like if you get to that point. There are also other people who have walked in your shoes and know that there comes that one spark that starts to shift the tide. That spark will come to you, please hang on, grit your teeth and wait for it.
All the love to you OP.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:35
Subject: This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is angry with me because she had to quit activities she loves because I don’t have the money. I feel like a failure.
Is that the HS senior?
Tell the princess to get a job and contribute toward her upkeep.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 13:27
Subject: This job search is depressing
What was your job op?
Anonymous
09/16/2025 08:02
Subject: This job search is depressing
OP here, thank you everyone for your kind words. For those that asked, I have been doing UberEats as a side hustle since covid. It’s not much, but it’s helping with groceries. As for my daughter, she’s able to stay on her sports team and talked to her director at her other activity who’s letting her “work” for her monthly tuition in the mean time. That takes a little stress off. I’m sorry for the suicidal post, I was really having a bad day yesterday. I’m a little better today, but still not in a good place fully and probably won’t be until I have full time employment again.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 05:50
Subject: This job search is depressing
You are worth so much more than your job and what you earn. I realize you need money to live, but there is help out there and you can get through this season to start a better new one. Please reach out to 988 to talk if you feel like you’re out of options.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 00:31
Subject: This job search is depressing
OP I know how terrible you may feel. My husband was out of work for two years. The terror is real. Please please get help. It may not feel that way right now but your daughter loves you and needs you. Your family needs you. Your life matters and believe me this too shall pass. You are NOT alone. So many of us are suffering, embarrassed and sad. Please find a life preserver and hang on. People need you. You can do this.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 23:19
Subject: This job search is depressing
I’m so sorry OP. Your daughter is angry because teens are selfish. But she loves you and needs you.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 22:46
Subject: Re:This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.
Agree, don’t suffer in silence. Speak with friends and neighbors, so many people are happy to help, especially as we feel powerless about what’s happening in our country. Stay strong, you are unique and there’s no one like you, and never will be. How freaking cool is that?
Anonymous
09/15/2025 22:33
Subject: Re:This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.
It’s not that easy for others to help right now. Everyone is struggling.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 22:16
Subject: Re:This job search is depressing
If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 21:40
Subject: Re:This job search is depressing
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We only got 3 more years....
Down size if needed.
He's not worth it...
+1 hold on, folks. He's definitely not worth it.
Not always the ideal situation, but can you find something in another city/state? You have to go to where the jobs are, and sometimes, this ends up being a blessing in disguise.
It's definitely scary to be jobless (been laid off twice), but hold on. Do what you need to do to survive.
Move in with family (I did that once); downsize; move to a diff city/state. Again, not ideal, but you gotta do what you gotta do to survive.
Hang in there.
I have a high school senior, so I'm trying to stay local so she can graduate here. I can't even afford to downsize because I literally have no money. The only family I have are my parents, but they live in a 55+ community in a one bedroom and aren't allowed, nor have the space to accommodate two more people. Her father is a deadbeat who's been out of our lives since she was a baby so I can't even get any help from him. The timing of this couldn't be any worse.
I hate my ex wife but I love my daughter. Men who don't want to finally support their kids are terrible human beings. I am not very close to my daughter, but as far money she is set now and in the future as well.
Op, please reach out to your school to see if they can cover the costs.
Which school, OP?
Can she do fund raising for the costs?