Anonymous wrote:She really should ask the supervisor if they can sit down and talk about it.

Nope. She should quit if the household isn’t relying on this money. She can find other work. The problem is with whoever thinks this nastiness is required to manage people. The woman who made the comment is either crazy, an a—-hole, or both.

Your daughter is making the lazy people look bad. That’s on the lazy ones

She really should ask the supervisor if they can sit down and talk about it.

She may be introverted and misunderstood. People may perceive her as being unfriendly instead of understanding her that she is a quiet kid. She may need to explain that to the supervisor.

Otherwise, the supervisor may just clash with her and doesn't like her. Nothing she can do.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry this happened to your daughter but some important lessons were learned. These jobs suck and your daughter doesn’t want to do this forever. That’s the most important lesson. She starts looking for a new job NOW. Turnover is high, pay is low and the supervisor is likely and unprofessional 20 yo.

My son had a really bad experience at a fast food job. It ended up being a great experience because he learned how hard he had to work for very little money. He learned how to deal with lots of different people and how unfair some could be. And yes, at one point his shift supervisor and manager were 19 and 21 They said stupid things to people.

This. Plus she will learn what she thinks is the end of the world isn't, You can leave a bad job, find a new one and life goes on. It's good practice when you don't have bills to pay and kids to support and it does not need to be listed on a resume if you don't want to. No explaining a gap in teen jobs if she doesn't work for a few months.

When I was in high school, I was a summer camp counselor and I had a rotation at the pool. It was run by the volleyball/football coaches and generally really loud. I’m introverted and socially anxious so it was my nightmare, I wasn’t rude at all but didn’t really engage much with the others and I was told the same thing. I was really upset and embarrassed, but luckily it was only a week long rotation. I would quit if I was your daughter, there’s really no coming back from that. I am 38 now and I still remember that, ugh.

Anonymous wrote:It's crazy to me how many of you are jumping to the side of the supervisor. This is a part-time retail job. The supervisor sounds incredibly drama prone. She's using super charged but veiled language to dress down a young employee when she should be both more clear (state the specific behavior OP's DD is engaging in that is causing the problem) and diplomatic (use words like "unprofessional" or "inappropriate" not "poison").

Thing is that in a lot of cases managers have little to no experience and education. So you’re not seeing the most professional of people. Not defending just saying that you can’t expect professionalism from someone who doesn’t have that skill.

I do think daughter probably has a better sense of why it was said than she is letting on. And I think these jobs are tough but good learning experience even if only to recognize that you don’t want this type of job for the long term.

When I was in high school, I had a summer job at a candy store in the mall. The manager was so mean to me: she would regularly refer to me as "Nerd" and say really scornful things about my shoes, my hair (she told me I looked like the Virgin Mary), etc.

Years later, as an adult, I can see that she was a bitter, jealous, overweight 20-something high school dropout with no prospects. She hated me because I was a middle class girl who was going to college in the fall and had a bright future. And remembering how she acted, I think she had some mental health issues as well.

OP, I wonder if this is what is going on? Is your dd's manager somebody who has reason to be jealous of her?

Anonymous wrote:Zero chance that DD doesn't know why supervisors said it unless she is totally clueless/ lives in the clouds.

+1

To the op: have you considered the possibility you might not know your DD as well as you thought?

I’m sorry this happened to your daughter but some important lessons were learned. These jobs suck and your daughter doesn’t want to do this forever. That’s the most important lesson. She starts looking for a new job NOW. Turnover is high, pay is low and the supervisor is likely and unprofessional 20 yo.

My son had a really bad experience at a fast food job. It ended up being a great experience because he learned how hard he had to work for very little money. He learned how to deal with lots of different people and how unfair some could be. And yes, at one point his shift supervisor and manager were 19 and 21 They said stupid things to people.

If she could prove her point, why would she want to fight to work there? Dd is right to move on.

What a B__!! The job is presumably not about socializing, it's about stocking shelves. That supervisor will be stuck in retail forever if she thinks the most important thing is being besties with all of your co-workers. I am sorry for your daughter, I hope she's able to find another job.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two possibilities:

1. Your daughter is socially inept, not just quiet and introverted, and said upsetting things without even realizing it.

2. The person who told her this is a psychopath who enjoys inflicting emotional damage. They exist. And retail attracts really nasty, limited people.

3. Some combo of the two. People with neurodivergence and people with disabilities are easy targets of bullies.

OP, if the family is not in desperate need of this money, I suggest that she quit. There is nothing to be learned here. She's better off focusing on other things and finding another job.

I believe that’s 3.

yeah, I can't count