Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:56
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to have a baby with this man?
Yeah, work on untangling this. You stayed for so long with someone like that. Why?
It sounds like she wanted to continue her abuse, probably out of anger to the world.
Op here. It is really irresponsible of you to accuse me of abuse when I’m in the throes of dealing with my husband who left me after serially cheating and emotional abusing me. I’m already losing my mind and your comments don’t help.
When everyone around you seems to think you were abusive, you should take that to heart. There's obviously some truth to it.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:53
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you off the lease? You need to make sure you’re not legally liable to pay rent while he lives there.
Personally, I would not move out. You keep paying it, get him off the lease. He’s the one who can deal with finding a new place and moving his stuff.
See an attorney, but when I dealt with this, I made him leave and I gave him a set deadline to get his stuff, then I tossed it.
I moved out as I cannot afford to pay rent for our larger apartment. I got a smaller apartment that I can afford. He kept threatening to not pay rent the last two months to push me to move out. He said since I’m not his wife anymore, he doesn’t need to pay for me so either I pay or I move out. All of his stuff is still there. I have moved out most of my things and will finalize the rest of it this weekend.
How old are you?
It doesn’t seem like you understand that if your name is on the lease you’re legally responsible for rent. It does not matter if it’s only his stuff that’s there.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:52
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to have a baby with this man?
Yeah, work on untangling this. You stayed for so long with someone like that. Why?
It sounds like she wanted to continue her abuse, probably out of anger to the world.
Op here. It is really irresponsible of you to accuse me of abuse when I’m in the throes of dealing with my husband who left me after serially cheating and emotional abusing me. I’m already losing my mind and your comments don’t help.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:48
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to have a baby with this man?
Yeah, work on untangling this. You stayed for so long with someone like that. Why?
It sounds like she wanted to continue her abuse, probably out of anger to the world.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:46
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
I’m sure you guys had a fight about something as couples do (especially when one of the members of the couple is a man baby!), and he ran off to one of his friends or one of the women he cheated with crying about how awful you were and they were like, “oh you don’t deserve it, you’re so amazing, you’re being abused,” and he just ran with it. The good thing is without kids or property, the divorce should be quick, and you can quickly wash your hands of this guy and his crappy family and friends. You definitely need a good therapist though.
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:29
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Why would you want to have a baby with this man?
Yeah, work on untangling this. You stayed for so long with someone like that. Why?
Anonymous
09/15/2025 08:27
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:I have posted here before about the lows of my tumultuous long marriage to my husband who serially cheated on me, was under or unemployed and focused on his music and writing while my fertility waned and I grew increasingly frustrated and sad about not meeting life milestones such as having a baby and owning a home.
In late June while I was away on a work trip my husband slept with a mutual friend that was arranged by his other friends as he had been telling everyone about how toxic I was.
Upon my return he quickly went to a trip to Nashville with his recently single friend who was going there with the express reason of partying and hooking up with other girls.
By snooping through his phone and uber records I was able to confirm that while in Nashville my husband slept with at least 2 women, one was a 50something mom of two.
I was processing all of this and how to confront him when in early July, when I was at work, he packed his laptop and a bag of clothes and walked out. He has not returned since. When u called him to ask where he was, he told me that he is leaving me as he will no longer be a victim of abuse as I am an abusive person and he doesn’t feel safe around me. He asked me to move out of our shared apartment asap as he will no longer pay the rent.
After two months of devastation and freeze response, I’m finally moving out. My mind is still reeling that he is saying I abused him…I can’t process this. As I thought he was cheating and lying and stringing me along? Suddenly I’m abusive?? Make it make sense
Don't focus on this, just move on. Maybe you were abusive, maybe you weren't. He was wrong to cheat, obviously. But now you're out and you should do some work on yourself and figure out what you want before getting into another relationship. Your marriage was toxic, which I'm not saying you are wholly responsible for, but you need to get to a healthy space before moving on to someone else. Cut the cords and don't look back. Wondering why he said that and what he meant is useless unless you're willing to really own your role in what happened. Again, I'm not saying you are to blame here, but being defensive over the words of a man who cheated on and left you is a waste of time. Do some soul searching and learn to let go of the past. I wish you the best of luck in your new life.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 20:15
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
OP, you’ve been posting about him for years. We begged and pleaded with you to leave the piece of utter s**t, and you couldn’t bring yourself to do it, because you were so scared of being alone. He did you an enormous favor!! You need to unpack it with a therapist now - why you stayed and why you are confused. You seem to be believing his narrative and doubting yourself, despite living through his toxicity day after day. You have to let go of what his friends and family think; it’s meaningless.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 18:47
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
The cheating ex has entered the room.
DP. Op's story is not adding up for me either.
His friends and family helped him cheat on her yet everyone who knows her knows she is not abusive. Why would they do that?
Because they’re all pieces of $hit? Birds of a feather and all that….
Anonymous
09/14/2025 17:42
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
The cheating ex has entered the room.
DP. Op's story is not adding up for me either.
His friends and family helped him cheat on her yet everyone who knows her knows she is not abusive. Why would they do that?
I think it adds up perfectly. It just doesn't look good for the OP.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:40
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
The cheating ex has entered the room.
DP. Op's story is not adding up for me either.
His friends and family helped him cheat on her yet everyone who knows her knows she is not abusive. Why would they do that?
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:39
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
The cheating ex has entered the room.
Read her own posts. She basically admitted it.
It's particularly telling that she is mad that he left her.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:26
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
The cheating ex has entered the room.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:14
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
Yea, him cheating on her, drinking all night, carousing, wouldn't impact her mental well being at all, nope, no sireee..
How do you expect people to deal with an abusive spouse over multiple years? Yes, he probably should have just left her years ago, but that's hard on everyone in different ways.
Anonymous
09/14/2025 16:12
Subject: Finally separated from cheating man child husband
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You sound slightly crazy too.
+1. Clearly some unmanaged mental health issues going on there, which probably did result in abuse towards the STBX.
Can you elaborate?
Did you read the posts? Everyone around them seems to agree she's abusive. She demonstrated an entitled attitude, complaining that her STBX doesn't want to pay for her living arrangements and that he previously didn't want to keep trying IVF.
It appears she had a mental breakdown after suffering the two miscarriages and never got the help she needed to get past them.
Yea, him cheating on her, drinking all night, carousing, wouldn't impact her mental well being at all, nope, no sireee..