Yes. And I do the same.

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who said no, looking back do you regret being with someone who doesn't act like they are attracted to you?

Looking back, I feel sad about it but I'm glad I stayed until we were empty nesters.

Anonymous wrote:NEVER.

Did he ever do this before you were married?

Anonymous wrote:Tell you “you look cute”, “you look hot tonight”. Things like that. Or is this not part of your relationship?

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Anonymous wrote:Those of you who said no, looking back do you regret being with someone who doesn't act like they are attracted to you?

Huh? My DH is great in bed and I control all the money and assets. He is plenty attracted to me and he proves it in many ways.

- Happy SAHM riding the gravy train

Anonymous wrote:He does frequently, but I don't like it. It makes me feel like he only loves me because I'm pretty.

Perpetually dissatisfied!!

NEVER.

Why are women so shallow and insecure? You can fix it with therapy.

Virtually never, and it makes me sad. We've talked about it many times but he just can't seem to bring himself to compliment me. At least not on anything other than my cooking. He's routinely very flattering about that, but it's among the things I value least about myself unfortunately.

I do regret this about our relationship and hope to teach our son that it matters.

Those of you who said no, looking back do you regret being with someone who doesn't act like they are attracted to you?

He does frequently, but I don't like it. It makes me feel like he only loves me because I'm pretty.

Never, not once

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years ago, he did not and it made me so sad on top of other intense life stressors. People go through periods and if you have a lot to juggle, caring for your partner might be less of a priority. I dont think its a set personality style or skill. It does make an intense difference for mental health though to know you are appreciated, like in any relationship, romantic or not.

Do you also tell him he is cute, hot?

I do, because he is. I told him often when he seemed blind to me too. That was so upsetting though, I think I withdrew and started seeing him with a more critical disapproving eye. I mean we were not in a good place for a good year or two. I dont know what made the turn around but it was years of little steps building back up of learning to handle stress and kids growing up. We both compliment each other now but its flipped where I used to do it more, he does now and I appreciate more sides to him and let him know.

I dont believe this "people never change" business because we both changed for the worst (from being a loving team to antagonists) and probably blame each other for the worst of those times and then later changed for the better where we will focus on how each other is doing and will respond in kind. We're a team again and maybe in 5-10-20 years we'll be bickering more again. I dont know what will come but its good now.

Yes, a lot. He also teases me about my obvious signs of aging too, as I do him. But he’s very complimentary and affectionate.

No. No. Not at all.

But, he loves to spend time with me. He dotes on me and cares for me. His love language is acts of service.