Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is BK? Is this Bethesda or some other striver neighborhood?

In my normal neighborhood, when someone compliments your outfit we’re quick to reply it’s from Amazon, it’s on sale, and oh here’s the link, go snatch one up!

op - brooklyn.

I'm manhattan where it's normal to compliment and then share where you got something. It was SO odd.

I am from Brooklyn.

I can usually tell you where I’ve thrifted my stuff. If the original owner cut off the label (as many do), I have no idea where it came from.

Anonymous wrote:Bostonian here. We are like the midwesterner above, maybe because we are the birthplace of the original Filene’s Basement. We will happily respond with the place of purchase and highlight whether it was a good buy. Maybe this is all a regional thing in how people reply.

Probably very true. I'm the Chicago poster above. I will add that while I will happily answer questions from anyone, I only ask questions of really, really close friends or my immediate family of sisters and my mother.

Also: I miss Filene's. Truly the best.

I get asked all the time. Sometimes I answer and sometimes I don’t feel like it. I never ask anyone where they got stuff: it’s weird and invasive. Unless it’s a really good friend.

Bostonian here. We are like the midwesterner above, maybe because we are the birthplace of the original Filene’s Basement. We will happily respond with the place of purchase and highlight whether it was a good buy. Maybe this is all a regional thing in how people reply.

I tend to believe people. I don't change my wardrobe often - I've had some pieces for decades, OP. So if I remember where I got something from, I will tell you, and advise you to look at Poshmark or other second hand shop to look for it, because you won't find it in stores.

But it's highly likely I won't remember.

And now, I get most of my "new" clothes directly from Poshmark anyway. I like not wearing what other people are wearing.

Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I rarely comment on anyone's clothes any more. Only a close friend if I'm sure they will appreciate the compliment. It just feels kind of intrusive. Same with appearance. Who knows why someone has lost weight or cut their hair. There really is better party small talk.

I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.

This sounds like it’s more of a you issue than a them issue. Have you gone out and bought something after one of your friends shared in the past? That’s just weird. Don’t be a copycat.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they don't want you copying them. Its creepy you google it.

It's this.

Get a life. Creepy? Copying? When did middle school girls take over?

If someone I didn't know well approached me at a party, paid me a compliment but then asked me point blank where I got my dress, I would assume there's some ulterior motive or that you're a pushy person. I'd be vague and hell and probably try to avoid you for the rest of the party.

Anonymous wrote:Because Anthropologie is basic and people in Brooklyn want to be more unique.

This is the answer
- Brooklyn resident for 10+ years

Why would you insist she owes you this information? Let her be cagey and take note not to ask that specific lady again. I used to hate those questions as I wasn't looking to influence or share my style.

Now I could care less and will text you a link instantly, but I still respect others comfort zones.

I never tell people the truth either.

Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

This. I find this very awkward like I'm being judged and there's no right answer.

If you think they are "gate keeping" then it is about copying a style which may come across as odd. Why not just tell someone you like their style and ask where they like to shop. You will be much more likely to get good information about some of their favorite stores if you want to emulate the style.