We like to pretend we’re not dying inside.

We like to go on daily walks, play uno, watch movies, play tennis and we have tried water colors recently.

Anonymous wrote:Pickleball, not always together but try to play together whenever possible.

oh, I love it. going to try to get him to play

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! We're both big board gamers, which is great because we always have someone to play with

I love this. What board games do you like?

Current favs:
Sagrada (and the Legacy version is fabulous)
Terraforming Mars (which we rarely get to play because it takes like 2.5 hours and we have three kids five and under)
Bunny Kingdom
Five Tribes
Daybreak
Lost Ruins of Arnak
Pandemic (especially with the “In the Lab” expansion. And the Legacy versions are amazing)

I have never heard of any of these. I'm still thinking board games like clue, yhatzee, monopoly....

PP here. That was me when we met! I had always loved board games, but besides Settlers of Catan, which had just become somewhat popular, I really only knew the "classics" like the ones you listed. He introduced me to the world of modern board games and there are SO MANY fabulous ones. The classics are crap compared to all the newer ones (last 20 years or so). If you're looking to try a modern, awesome board game, some good introductory ones are Sagrada, Azul, Splendor, Camel Up, King Domino and Carcassone.

Our three kids are a huge shared interest and we have the same profession, although we’ve never worked together. Other than that, we both enjoy hiking, skiing, traveling, trying new restaurants, going to wineries, and watching sports (we’re fans of mostly different teams but the rivalry is fun). Our taste in tv, movies and books is similar enough that we don’t have any trouble finding a movie or a series to watch together and sometimes recommend books to one another. We also have some different interests. But, we have some different interests, too. DH likes golfing and biking and I don’t like either. I also run 3-4 times a week and he runs occasionally. I prefer to run alone - I’m too competitive to run with someone else and like to zone out and listen to music or a podcast. So it isn’t something we do together often.

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Anonymous wrote:We both like gossiping about other couples. I that a hobby?

Yes and it was actually explicitly mentioned as a valid way to bond in one of Gottman’s marriage books (there are a ton of them and I don’t remember which one).

Ha! I love that!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! We're both big board gamers, which is great because we always have someone to play with

I love this. What board games do you like?

Current favs:
Sagrada (and the Legacy version is fabulous)
Terraforming Mars (which we rarely get to play because it takes like 2.5 hours and we have three kids five and under)
Bunny Kingdom
Five Tribes
Daybreak
Lost Ruins of Arnak
Pandemic (especially with the “In the Lab” expansion. And the Legacy versions are amazing)

I have never heard of any of these. I'm still thinking board games like clue, yhatzee, monopoly....

Anonymous wrote:My spouse and I share a lot of hobbies.

We play board games though more with our kid now (My Little Everdell is a favorite). We completed Gloomhaven together.

I read a lot more than he does but we read books together. We watch TV together though there are certain shows that are separate. We both love hiking and bike riding. We have our separate hobbies as well.

How do you all read together? Like share a book like your own book club or read out loud?

Anonymous wrote:We both like gossiping about other couples. I that a hobby?

Yes and it was actually explicitly mentioned as a valid way to bond in one of Gottman’s marriage books (there are a ton of them and I don’t remember which one).

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Anonymous wrote:I would love to have a shared hobby. But no, no overlap.

We both read (different books). Of course we watch TV (different shows). I exercise (he does not). I do arts/crafts (he does not). He has an online community activities (I do not join).

We can do things like hiking, travel, museums together. We share our kids as an interest.

This is us. Now empty nesters and trying to find joint hobbies

We are at this point also. But I feel like our whole marriage has been looking for things we both like. We are very different and it surprises me that we even got together and stayed for so long.

We’re just starting with pickleball and am hoping it sticks. We’ve tried pool and golf - I hate both, spouse loves. We do like cycling, boating, travel, theater. We both work out but separately. We watch some shows together when the weather is bad. We like to play cards with our kids and have long dinners hanging out when they are around - but none of us are great cooks.

We also have separate hobbies. I like crafts and am an artist. I also sew. We tried house projects together and that was a disaster. We both read and like the same books.

In the end, I’d say we spend most of our weekends and all of our joint time off work (spouse is in healthcare so doesn’t get all the same holidays) doing things together. We rarely go out without the other except we both take family trips without the other sometimes. We had to work hard on finding joint interests.

We both like gossiping about other couples. I that a hobby?