Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:38     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:Mine is struggling at Yale. Considering a transfer.


Already? Give it a chance!

Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:33     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
It's early, OP! Encourage her to sign up for clubs, intramurals, etc. Friendships will happen, it just will take more than a couple of weeks.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:31     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:Mine is struggling at Yale. Considering a transfer.


May I ask which resco? I know not all of them are super proactive. my daughter was having a hard time, even after camp Yale where it seems like a lot of friends were made. She started making an effort to go to the froco duty nights even if the theme didn’t naturally appeal to her. She met a few kids who were in the same boat and they hang out a lot now. I don’t know if they’ll be best friends but she has people to eat with, etc.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 07:13     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:what school?


UVA


OP here and this wasn't me replying. It's a private university.


Why is it a secret which school she attends? Geez


Not OP, but why does it matter what school? Knowing the school tells you nothing. There are happy and unhappy kids at every school. You don’t need to know the school to make suggestions of things OP's kid can try to make friends faster.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 06:57     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
DS is doing great at a SEC school but helps that he is pledging and has a club sport.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 06:51     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:what school?


UVA


OP here and this wasn't me replying. It's a private university.


Why is it a secret which school she attends? Geez
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 06:02     Subject: Re:Has your freshman made friends?
Sorry your daughter is struggling OP.

Mine is living her best life it seems. She met some people through mutual friends in June, loves her hall mates and did an orientation trip prior to the start of classes.

I think the effort to connect with people prior to the start of school really helped.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2025 04:51     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
I agree with suggesting she join a club. My DD joined a community service club and a women's workout group and both were a great way to feel connected and start meeting people. And I'm sorry - it's tough to hear this from your child and does take some time.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 23:49     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:Mine is struggling at Yale. Considering a transfer.


Oh no. Give it time.
Is it the people?
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 23:48     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:Curious about what you're hearing from your freshman and if they're happy and feeling connected.
Mine is not and I am trying not to worry. I know it's early.
This is an historically very social kid who is finding that a large number of other girls are just not nice and will outright reject invitations to meet (dinner, coffee, etc)
Roommate is having a similar experience per the roommate's mom who I reached out to in desperation (wanting to know if what my kid was sharing was true or embellished for sympathy or ?) Turns out relayed the exact same things without me even suggesting them.
UGH.



Vanderbilt?
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 23:36     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
She was presumably doing some combination of clubs, service projects, sports, etc. in high school; has she gotten involved with clubs (etc.) at her school? There's usually an "activities fair" at the beginning of the semester, likely past already, but perhaps there's a clubs directory that she could use to find a few activities? That way there isn't the dynamic of getting turned down from meals, as everyone's off to go collect bugs or eat cheese or talk about movies or whatever.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 23:14     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
I don’t think she’s made actual friends, no. She’s met some people, including a couple she seems to like. Friends, though? That’s different. I agree that a lot of those early friendships don’t last. It’s a weird time for everyone.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 22:54     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
My son is busy and plays video games with floor mates, goes to meals. Trying out for club sports. Going to gym.

These are not BFFs but he is happy and not lonely. Does not need to come home. He’s 4 hours away.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 21:47     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:what school?


UVA


OP here and this wasn't me replying. It's a private university.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2025 18:56     Subject: Has your freshman made friends?
One thing about making friends fast as a freshman - it doesn't always work out. As other posters noted, kids are all about glomming onto someone, anyone those first few weeks. I remember becoming overnight besties with a girl in my dorm - doing everything together that first month or so. She turned out to be not a very nice person, and once I realized that, I made more of an effort to meet other people.

Those first friends are often just for convenience. OP, can't your daughter and her roommate do things together?