Anonymous wrote:100k right out of undergrad is really pushing it, and not as common as you think. Don’t believe social media. Also it sometimes comes with some sacrifices to happiness that can’t be measured easily: frequent business travel that is not glamorous, long hours, intense pressure, and no time for self care.
I say this as a similar parent: let her figure it out herself.
+1000
My one kid started at $65K, in a MCOLA. Not STEM, had no internships (thanks covid). 3 years later are making $78K/year and getting a moderate bonus yearly (4-5%, sometimes 10%). But they typically work 40-45 hour weeks, and only put in longer hours when it's "pressure time/product release/etc". They only have to travel 3-4 times per year (for 3days typically each time). So their quality of life is high, they are doing well, but love that they don't have to make so many sacrifices.
As they state, there are a few on their team (same start group from 3 years ago) who get 20% raises and 15% bonuses, but those people all work 60-70 hour weeks, have not gotten a promotion, they just work longer hours. When everyone else is gathering on Sundays to play games, watch NFL, have a party, they are leaving at 4pm to go to the office to do 3-4 hours of work. So they are workaholics who are getting paid the same hourly as my kid. And if they stopped working those hours, their ranking would go down.