Anonymous wrote:Teach him to say something like "OK, RUDE. Teamwork makes the dream work, bro" and move on. This kid is in for a tough ride if you are considering telling the teacher about some little 12 year old being rude once. That kid probably doesn't even remember saying it.

This is exactly my point. You absolutely do not go to the teacher in 7th the first time someone curses at your kid. You only go if your kid is physically harmed.

Teach him to say something like "OK, RUDE. Teamwork makes the dream work, bro" and move on. This kid is in for a tough ride if you are considering telling the teacher about some little 12 year old being rude once. That kid probably doesn't even remember saying it.

Whoa. Disagreee hard with the advice and judgement coming out here.
Your child’s reaction is completely within the bounds of a normal reaction for a 7th grader. And/but this is gonna be a hard year and a learning year. I really would engage in a conversation to find out the context, and ask/encourage him to kind of observe other kids behavior at school and elsewhere, and converse with him about it.
You do NOT teach your child that it’s ok to be a doormat and encourage him to say nothing. Maybe you work on an array of responses he could use in the future.
7th grade and beginning of 8th were rough for my sensitive kiddo but he came out the other side understanding social nuances of boy culture and being more resilient. It’s a process! You don’t berate him and invalidate his hurt feelings… you help him observe and map his way thru the world. He’ll be OK. Time helps, maturity helps, and my kid who is now a well adjusted 10th grader with a lot of friends would have cried about this in 7th.

Your child will be known as (maybe already has this reputation) a tattle tale. Crying to Mommy and then Mommy emailing the teacher is exactly what will disempower him. You need to give him the tools to deal with the situation himself. Why do you continue to infantalize him? We know someone like this. Unfortunately the kids do not like this child and want nothing to do with them because they are a tattle tale and a crybaby. It’s sad, but the mother continues to enable this behavior instead of getting help for/empowering the child.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone here would run to HR if a coworker said this to them but calls a child the p word for getting upset.

Everyone would run to HR if a coworker tried to bite them, but we let toddlers get away with it all the time. Kids are not adults.

Toddlers are not 7th graders, who are old enough to know better.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone here would run to HR if a coworker said this to them but calls a child the p word for getting upset.

Everyone would run to HR if a coworker tried to bite them, but we let toddlers get away with it all the time. Kids are not adults.

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Anonymous wrote:There is middle school language. (Gross)
And there are personal insults mixed with strong language.
This was the second.

This is unfair to your kid and truly, truly overreacting from this other kid. If your kid knows he is not “f ing” stupid then, he can ignore.

Ditto telling the teacher by email that this child should not be paired with yours again (as pp said, unmentioned interpersonal conflict).

But what about if her kid is?

OP's CHILD needs to ask the teacher not to be paired with this kid again. Mommy should not be involved in 7th.

I’m curious how OP feels about this statement, which I agree with.

Somehow I don’t think we are getting the full story.