Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 15:19     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
My 85 year older mother has furniture like this - rock hard, not functional at all. I’m convinced she’s never sat on any of the chairs. But they are antiques and she likes to tel people that so I guess that was her aim.

We have comfy soft couches and chairs and certainly provided our mothers with a soft rocking chair for when the kids were babies! I spent many nights nursing in that rocking chair. Why would you want something uncomfortable?
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 13:51     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:OP I highly recommend you not be super high maintenance at this stage of your kids lives. I’d flip my lid if I was trying to deal with my kids and feed/host guests and my mil was complaining about the couch not being soft.


This. There are several things in my son’s apartment that are not exactly to my liking. I assume things are this way because my son and DIL actually like it like this. Their home - their rules and preferences.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 13:20     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can almost guarantee your old recliners look granny. Your aesthetic is not their aesthetic. And that’s fine. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.


Ok so let’s say you’re right and the chairs are granny. But there are plenty of comfortable chairs that aren’t Granny and where you can put your feet up. Our kids come over and plant themselves in a comfy chair while we play w the kids. It’s a great situation that they clearly enjoy. Why won’t they put comfy chairs in their home? A chair to snuggle up in. They clearly like them. And the grandkids love to snuggle up and read a book after their bath. It’s not aesthetic because there are so many options.
Is it a matter of not wanting to be like their parents?

Theyre sitting in the chairs you have available. It's not like they are purposely picking out these chairs. Youre taking this so personally, its weird. Get over yourself. Its their house, let them furnish it how they like!


A certain kind of older lady takes personal offense if her daughter isn't her clone.
The conversation I've had a hundred times:
Mom: "I'm doing some downsizing and I decided you can have my ceramic frog (insert decor item here).
Me: "Oh, no thanks Mom."
Mom: "I don't want to be rude but your ((living room, yard etc.) is looking kind of sterile. It could really use some personality. A boring space makes me think a boring person lives there."
Me: " We just have different styles. It's ok."
Mom: "I didn't raise you to be like this. You were always surrounded by lots of art and decorative items" blah blah blah until I finally get mad.


Why don't you want my trash?!?!!
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 13:01     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My adult children have the most uncomfortable furniture in their living rooms, family rooms and kitchen. How do they rock a baby or read a book to their kids? There’s not a lot of seating and the seating they have is uncomfortable. I offered to buy one of my kids a nice comfortable (they pick it) chair so I could comfort the babies by rocking them and read stories to the toddler.
We have beautiful leather recliners that they sink into when they come over. There are also great chairs with an ottoman that don’t look granny.
Is this the new aesthetic?


Offering to buy a chair because you don’t like their furniture is a dick move, don’t do that again.


Word.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:57     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:My adult children have the most uncomfortable furniture in their living rooms, family rooms and kitchen. How do they rock a baby or read a book to their kids? There’s not a lot of seating and the seating they have is uncomfortable. I offered to buy one of my kids a nice comfortable (they pick it) chair so I could comfort the babies by rocking them and read stories to the toddler.
We have beautiful leather recliners that they sink into when they come over. There are also great chairs with an ottoman that don’t look granny.
Is this the new aesthetic?


Offering to buy a chair because you don’t like their furniture is a dick move, don’t do that again.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:54     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:I don't like recliners at all, but I also like comfortable furniture. But comfort doesn't mean big and fluffy to me – it means well-constructed, with good proportions/angles and materials.

You don't have to have overstuffed leather recliners with built in cupholders to be comfortable.


Things that are well proportioned for one person aren’t for another. OP’s kids likely have furniture that fits them, not their mom who visits a few times per year.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:52     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can almost guarantee your old recliners look granny. Your aesthetic is not their aesthetic. And that’s fine. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.


Ok so let’s say you’re right and the chairs are granny. But there are plenty of comfortable chairs that aren’t Granny and where you can put your feet up. Our kids come over and plant themselves in a comfy chair while we play w the kids. It’s a great situation that they clearly enjoy. Why won’t they put comfy chairs in their home? A chair to snuggle up in. They clearly like them. And the grandkids love to snuggle up and read a book after their bath. It’s not aesthetic because there are so many options.
Is it a matter of not wanting to be like their parents?

Theyre sitting in the chairs you have available. It's not like they are purposely picking out these chairs. Youre taking this so personally, its weird. Get over yourself. Its their house, let them furnish it how they like!


A certain kind of older lady takes personal offense if her daughter isn't her clone.
The conversation I've had a hundred times:
Mom: "I'm doing some downsizing and I decided you can have my ceramic frog (insert decor item here).
Me: "Oh, no thanks Mom."
Mom: "I don't want to be rude but your ((living room, yard etc.) is looking kind of sterile. It could really use some personality. A boring space makes me think a boring person lives there."
Me: " We just have different styles. It's ok."
Mom: "I didn't raise you to be like this. You were always surrounded by lots of art and decorative items" blah blah blah until I finally get mad.


OMG!!!! SISTER I DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT!!!!!

Seriously though, my mom always complained about my furniture. It was too light, too dark, too hard, too soft, too big, too short….sigh. Let’s not even talk about her opinions on the way my kitchen is arranged!
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:49     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
if you are watching their children for free on a regular basis they should provide you with a comfortable chair. if you just vist then deal with it.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:33     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
I don't like recliners at all, but I also like comfortable furniture. But comfort doesn't mean big and fluffy to me – it means well-constructed, with good proportions/angles and materials.

You don't have to have overstuffed leather recliners with built in cupholders to be comfortable.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:29     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:They value aesthetic over comfort OP. Don't worry about it, they will eventually decide to buy new comfortable furniture as they get older and their bodies start to hurt.

We’ll all be sitting in the microsuede marshmallow equivalent of Martin Crane’s beloved recliner eventually. : )
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:25     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can almost guarantee your old recliners look granny. Your aesthetic is not their aesthetic. And that’s fine. Keep your nasty comments to yourself.


Ok so let’s say you’re right and the chairs are granny. But there are plenty of comfortable chairs that aren’t Granny and where you can put your feet up. Our kids come over and plant themselves in a comfy chair while we play w the kids. It’s a great situation that they clearly enjoy. Why won’t they put comfy chairs in their home? A chair to snuggle up in. They clearly like them. And the grandkids love to snuggle up and read a book after their bath. It’s not aesthetic because there are so many options.
Is it a matter of not wanting to be like their parents?

Theyre sitting in the chairs you have available. It's not like they are purposely picking out these chairs. Youre taking this so personally, its weird. Get over yourself. Its their house, let them furnish it how they like!


A certain kind of older lady takes personal offense if her daughter isn't her clone.
The conversation I've had a hundred times:
Mom: "I'm doing some downsizing and I decided you can have my ceramic frog (insert decor item here).
Me: "Oh, no thanks Mom."
Mom: "I don't want to be rude but your ((living room, yard etc.) is looking kind of sterile. It could really use some personality. A boring space makes me think a boring person lives there."
Me: " We just have different styles. It's ok."
Mom: "I didn't raise you to be like this. You were always surrounded by lots of art and decorative items" blah blah blah until I finally get mad.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:16     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
Ugh MIL from hell
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:11     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
They value aesthetic over comfort OP. Don't worry about it, they will eventually decide to buy new comfortable furniture as they get older and their bodies start to hurt.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:04     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
I dont like single seaters. I like to be able to snuggle with my kids or husband while seated. So no recliners.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 12:03     Subject: Is comfort not a thing
I think most people with uncomfortable furniture don’t want guests and don’t enjoy time together with their own spouse and kids. They like the uncomfortable furniture as it keeps people from gathering or staying in those spaces. And it stays looking good as it rarely gets used.