Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 11:31     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn’t say he likes it. He wouldn’t want to wait for me to get dolled up. I think he likes other women who doll up. For women over 50 it doesn’t matter. You always just look old.
Oh lord. You have a lot to learn.


Women are triggered that she just said it like it is. She just stated a fact. I am 54 years old and I look like a 54 years old despite my patchy hair transplant. It is what is
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 11:28     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
I always am presentable and dress well whether I am at home or out and about. I'm French so I guess it is cultural. I was not raised to be a slob, and I married my DH because he also has these same values. And naturally, we teach our children likewise. It's about having respect for yourself, your family, and your community. When I see Americans dressed as slobs...well there is a saying we have in France about them.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:59     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
No. I don't wear makeup. He met me that way.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:56     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the definition of dolling up? My mother has always been a SAHM. I remember her always starting to get herself ready around 5 pm everyday. She’d shower again, put on something pretty and some light makeup. My dad always came home at 6, and then they’d giggle like kids in the kitchen while she put the final touches on dinner. We knew to wait elsewhere until we were called to eat. I try to always look presentable.


Being a SAHM used to be so different. 4-7pm is just about my busiest time of day with homework, getting dinner at the exact right time everyone can eat together, and driving kids around to various activities. I can’t imagine taking that time to shower and hang out with my husband.


We didn't chronically overschedule our kids back then. They didn't have "extracurriculars" every night of the week. They'd be out, running around the neighborhood or riding their bikes in packs, and parents were home, cooking, cleaning, and preparing for the evening.

We messed it up, honestly. Not a tradwife, but there are some things about "the way it was" that were better for adults and kids, IMO.


+2
Most parents wear their endless daily schedules as a badge of honor. It is not.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:55     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:Important to remember that husbands are never allowed to expect anything from their wives, but wives are required to have many, many expectations of their husbands.


Because the expectations I have for myself exceed the expectations he has for me. Whereas the reverse is not always true...
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:50     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.


OMG, I hope you don't have kids. That's not the life lesson I want to pass on to my kids. Women's accomplishment should be more than sex.


DP here. You're being awful. The PP didn't say her only accomplishment was sex. Maybe you should look to her as an example of someone who's been happily married for a while instead of jumping to a rude conclusion.


But not wrong. Have some self-respect.


No, you're also wrong.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:39     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.


OMG, I hope you don't have kids. That's not the life lesson I want to pass on to my kids. Women's accomplishment should be more than sex.


DP here. You're being awful. The PP didn't say her only accomplishment was sex. Maybe you should look to her as an example of someone who's been happily married for a while instead of jumping to a rude conclusion.


But not wrong. Have some self-respect.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:27     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn’t say he likes it. He wouldn’t want to wait for me to get dolled up. I think he likes other women who doll up. For women over 50 it doesn’t matter. You always just look old.


Any particular reason you're such a c@nt at young age? If you're lucky you'll be over 50 to, and then just an ugly old one.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:24     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn’t say he likes it. He wouldn’t want to wait for me to get dolled up. I think he likes other women who doll up. For women over 50 it doesn’t matter. You always just look old.


what?! my 56yo girlfriend is sexy AF with and without makeup (and no plastic surgery)
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:20     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
To all the women who make an effort to look nice for their men, thank you. You are a treasure.

To all the women who think those women are somehow diminishing themselves by according some value to beauty or to their partner's preferences, you are extremist and counterproductive.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:14     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.


OMG, I hope you don't have kids. That's not the life lesson I want to pass on to my kids. Women's accomplishment should be more than sex.


Most women doll up for social reasons not for husbands or sex. If that was the case, they won't be getting ready in morning to go to work or to go out, they would be getting ready to go home.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:13     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Important to remember that husbands are never allowed to expect anything from their wives, but wives are required to have many, many expectations of their husbands.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:11     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:Side note but I hate this phrase. A doll is a toy for a child, it sounds so infantilizing to use it as a verb.


Sadly women were conditioned for centuries to think of dolling up as their life's main goal.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:08     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What’s the definition of dolling up? My mother has always been a SAHM. I remember her always starting to get herself ready around 5 pm everyday. She’d shower again, put on something pretty and some light makeup. My dad always came home at 6, and then they’d giggle like kids in the kitchen while she put the final touches on dinner. We knew to wait elsewhere until we were called to eat. I try to always look presentable.


Being a SAHM used to be so different. 4-7pm is just about my busiest time of day with homework, getting dinner at the exact right time everyone can eat together, and driving kids around to various activities. I can’t imagine taking that time to shower and hang out with my husband.


We didn't chronically overschedule our kids back then. They didn't have "extracurriculars" every night of the week. They'd be out, running around the neighborhood or riding their bikes in packs, and parents were home, cooking, cleaning, and preparing for the evening.

We messed it up, honestly. Not a tradwife, but there are some things about "the way it was" that were better for adults and kids, IMO.


Absolutely. We've gone to the extreme end. Just like a business can't solely run just on finance people, a happy and balanced household can't run on two busy professionals. It doesn't matter man or woman but one parent has to be home or have a more flxible part time job or they can take turns prioritizing careers. System needs to change. Jobs should support families, families shouldn't have to support jobs.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2025 10:07     Subject: Dolling yourself up for husband
Anonymous wrote:Neither of us likes dolling up as we are casual and practical people but we do encourage and appreciate graceful dressing and grooming.

My kind of people 👍