Anonymous wrote:Is there no flexibility with move-in day given it's a sorority house? She can't do it on a weekend when you and dh arent tied to work commitments?

DP: most college kids after freshman year are capable of driving 8 hours (get up and leave by 8 am) and finding friends to help them load/unload their car and go to storage and retrieve their items. Sure, it would be nice to have someone along for the ride, but definately not a requirement. Many 19 yo have had their license for 3-4 full years. And as long as they are experienced with highway driving, you have to let them learn to adult at some point.

Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks all. I think this is a social media induced guilt, parents setting up the rooms every year! But my daughter is pretty mature and independent, she can totally handle it and will probably be proud of herself when it's done.

Even when we take our kids there is no setting up the room. We drop off the boxes then they want us gone. Both girls. Social media is full of bored moms with nothing else to do.

We do because it’s a cross country flight and requires a hotel stay the night before move in and you can’t get a hotel if you’re under 21 (in general). Only one parent goes. The kid that was within driving distance moved herself in every year since Sophomore year.

Anonymous wrote:Is there no flexibility with move-in day given it's a sorority house? She can't do it on a weekend when you and dh arent tied to work commitments?

OP - They were given move-in slots in thirty minute increments on weekdays six months ago (Michigan) and she is waaaaaay more interested in Welcome Week festivities than in us being there!

Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks all. I think this is a social media induced guilt, parents setting up the rooms every year! But my daughter is pretty mature and independent, she can totally handle it and will probably be proud of herself when it's done.

+1. My son is going into his junior year and we can’t go along with him this time. He’s 100% fine without us going and very independent, but it’s me who is bummed.

Is there no flexibility with move-in day given it's a sorority house? She can't do it on a weekend when you and dh arent tied to work commitments?

Our kid is driving herself (junior year). No guilt as she’s totally happy to do it on her own.

We flew with our kid the first year, then sent alone on the plane for subsequent years.