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Anonymous wrote:The odds are below 1%? Heck, at 35 I could no longer carry to term. My body killed literally every baby we made.

Don’t be a nasty cow. When I gave birth at GW at 39, I could see the first names and ages of all the admitted mothers written on the nursing station board. There were plenty in their 40s-all with babies. You’ll find plenty of “geriatric moms” in the DC area.

Having a baby at 48 is very, very different from having a baby in the early 40s. Women really age fast starting at age 45!

Anonymous wrote:I got a very late start to marriage and family. Married at 41 first baby at 43. DD was a surprise as we weren't exactly planning her but we have been happy . It now seems we may have a second on the way. Still need to confirm and I realize at my age it's likely that I won't go to term.
But if I do...I guess I need some reassurance with the possibility of having a 6 year old and a newborn at nearly 50 and DH at over 50.

My first cousin got married at 40 to a 50 year old. She had three kids naturally. The last kid she was 47 and he was 57. Last year they became empty nestors when last. went to college when she was 65 and he was 75.

Right now she is 66 he is 76 just dropped youngest off sophmore year at college She still works full time, he just retired at 75 and her Dad just moved in with them so she is helping take care of her 93 year old Dad.

When youngest graduagtes college they will be 68 and 78, they are in perfect health. They just did a 1,000 mile roundtrip last week to drop daughter off at college and unload her stuff. And my cousin owns 200 rental properties she manages. She started buying homes around 1990 and between 1991 and around 2011 bought around 10 homes a year for twenty years. I recall her at 55 with three kids aged 8-12 and working full time once closed on three houses on one day while kids in school and working from home.

You can do it. Age is nothing but a number. My uncle, who is her Dad retired at 80. Was not till 92 he got too old to live alone. Up to 89 was dating, gooing on vacations, had a GF, his wife passed away when he was 82 so he started dating and doing things for the next decade.

Considering that OP has not returned to the thread, it's very unlikely the pregnancy has progressed.

On the bright side, it will be nice for your DC to have each other as siblings since you and your DH are older. I worry often for my only child having to have to make decisions for her Dad and I when we are older and need care.

My mom turned 48 two months after I was born in 1983. My dad was 49. I was their only but they were amazing parents, I had a beautiful childhood, and they are still alive today pushing 90 and in better condition that many of my peers’ boomer parents who are 10/15 years younger. I definitely think having a child in their later years kept them young. It will be hard but beautiful!