Anonymous
08/07/2025 17:20
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she doesn’t trust them to be unsupervised for whatever reason.
That's understandable but it's weird that she also insists the others drop off. If this were the concern you'd think she'd appreciate another mom keeping an eye out and hanging out with her, normalizing some level of supervision. Yet she wants to be the only one and it kind of sounds like she wants to be in on the gossip and feel cool. If other moms were there, it wouldn't be special.
Not sure if OP has been back to the thread since it was asked, but I’m starting to think that at least one of this mom’s kids are girls, and she doesn’t want them unsupervised with the teen boys.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 17:14
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:My teen daughter's friends call me Mom when they're at my house. It's half-loving, half-joking. I think it's very sweet, and I have no doubt that they know and love their real mothers, and that this is just a little nickname for me that they think is funny.
So no worries, OP.
A few of my daughter's kids call me mommy or bonus-mom, and it's only the ones with indifferent parents and irregular home lives. I wonder if that's a factor.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:56
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she doesn’t trust them to be unsupervised for whatever reason.
That's understandable but it's weird that she also insists the others drop off. If this were the concern you'd think she'd appreciate another mom keeping an eye out and hanging out with her, normalizing some level of supervision. Yet she wants to be the only one and it kind of sounds like she wants to be in on the gossip and feel cool. If other moms were there, it wouldn't be special.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:51
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
I wouldn't have my kids calling her mom, and yes I would think it was odd.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:49
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
I’m changing my mind. At first I thought OP was being defensive. Now I wouldn’t want my teens in that group. I want my teens to experience the world with their friends without some extra adult hanging out with them. I wouldn’t care about the mom thing but some adult hanging out with my kid and friends for no reason? No thanks.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:37
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:Normal. My friends kids all call me “larlas mom” and my kids call other kids moms “friends mom” - no one gets a title. She’s the mom of the group, so they call her mom. A few of my close friends have their kids call me aunt, but they end up calling me (insert kids name)’s mom
do people even read the posts? This is not what is being discussed.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:33
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
My 60yo BFF always says “mom” when asking about mine or talking about moms. Just her personality.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:32
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Wait is she the mom of one of the girls in this co-ed group of teens
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:31
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:Normal. My friends kids all call me “larlas mom” and my kids call other kids moms “friends mom” - no one gets a title. She’s the mom of the group, so they call her mom. A few of my close friends have their kids call me aunt, but they end up calling me (insert kids name)’s mom
Different scenario.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 16:30
Subject: Re:Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The insisting other parents leave while she stays is weird. My spidey sense would be going off too OP.
What does your kid say?
He said she "acts like she's scrolling on her phone, but she is watching us. She has conversations with some of the kids." I asked if he calls her mom and he said no! He doesn't want her or any parent around when the kids hang out. He has other friend groups which seem self organized and managed. Maybe she is a helicopter?
This is a group of boys? Or co-ed?
Boys are calling her mom?
co ed and, yes, boys calling her mom.
Anonymous
08/07/2025 15:43
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
Normal. My friends kids all call me “larlas mom” and my kids call other kids moms “friends mom” - no one gets a title. She’s the mom of the group, so they call her mom. A few of my close friends have their kids call me aunt, but they end up calling me (insert kids name)’s mom
Anonymous
08/07/2025 15:40
Subject: Re:Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The insisting other parents leave while she stays is weird. My spidey sense would be going off too OP.
What does your kid say?
He said she "acts like she's scrolling on her phone, but she is watching us. She has conversations with some of the kids." I asked if he calls her mom and he said no! He doesn't want her or any parent around when the kids hang out. He has other friend groups which seem self organized and managed. Maybe she is a helicopter?
This is a group of boys? Or co-ed?
Boys are calling her mom?
Anonymous
08/07/2025 15:26
Subject: Re:Is this weird/ perspective needed
Anonymous wrote:The insisting other parents leave while she stays is weird. My spidey sense would be going off too OP.
What does your kid say?
He said she "acts like she's scrolling on her phone, but she is watching us. She has conversations with some of the kids." I asked if he calls her mom and he said no! He doesn't want her or any parent around when the kids hang out. He has other friend groups which seem self organized and managed. Maybe she is a helicopter?
Anonymous
08/07/2025 15:18
Subject: Re:Is this weird/ perspective needed
The insisting other parents leave while she stays is weird. My spidey sense would be going off too OP.
What does your kid say?
What does your kid say?
Anonymous
08/07/2025 15:16
Subject: Is this weird/ perspective needed
It sounds like she doesn’t trust them to be unsupervised for whatever reason.