Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:43     Subject: Re:How frequent is sex in your relationship?
You have finite sex in your life. Age, disease, distance and lack of partner will take its toll.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:43     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 and sex is an important part of our relationship. That said, our college kid has been home for the summer (which we love, of course) and his schedule is unpredictable. Its been pretty difficult to find time to have sex more than once a week.

After almost a week of no sex she starts having frustrating dreams and we both get short with each other. Good sex helps us stay connected.

We have a place that we go to on the weekends and there’s always a list of things we have to get done while there. This weekend after a margarita it just turned into sex and we had to double time it yesterday to get everything done before going home.

Every couple is different but for me, sex is an important part of our relationship. It may not be forever (we’re getting older) but its worth figuring out if its not working for you.

Have you considered couples counseling? After watching the series Couples Therapy I’d definitely try it.


Gross


Why gross?
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:41     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:What’s your age and marital status too?

It’s come to a standstill in my relationship, and it’s very demoralizing.



Sorry

40 years married
At min five times a week

We are extremely lucky I know that
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:40     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mid 50s married decades, sex 3-5x weekly.


Geez, good for you. What’s your secret for success?


Not being fat.


Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:38     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriends parents are 72 and 76 and he recently went with his dad for a follow up regarding a spot on the dad's prostate. With bf in the room. His dad asked the doc if a procedure would affect their sex life because they've done it every other day for 45 years and he wasn't willing to jeopardize that!




I hope when his wife has similar health issues affecting her sex life she will be thinking the same thing. But I am not holding my breath. When it comes to sex, women are not as forgiving if their partner is not able to sexually satisfying them as much as they used to..


Uhm, pretty sure he was thinking of himself when he asked that but mmkkkaayyyyy


Exactly. Nottttt a flex dad.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:36     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:Men peak sexually very early by 50 most. After 50, for most men sex is just something they think they have to do not necessarily they want to do.

Kudos to the men 50+ who are still having sex regularly.


Dp. Yeah, I think there are some liars on here…
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 18:33     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:3x per week. 40s. Literally, this was "negotiated" in counseling and is almost like a checklist item that has to happen weekly.

Ugh. Maybe if no long days or work travel or kid stuff to do until 10pm. Damn hockey rink times


Damn hockey - the killer of intimacy and quality family time. Wish we’d never let our kid try it.


Hockey parent here...it gets so much easier when they start driving themselves to practice!
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 16:04     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:We’re 54/52 and sex is an important part of our relationship. That said, our college kid has been home for the summer (which we love, of course) and his schedule is unpredictable. Its been pretty difficult to find time to have sex more than once a week.

After almost a week of no sex she starts having frustrating dreams and we both get short with each other. Good sex helps us stay connected.

We have a place that we go to on the weekends and there’s always a list of things we have to get done while there. This weekend after a margarita it just turned into sex and we had to double time it yesterday to get everything done before going home.

Every couple is different but for me, sex is an important part of our relationship. It may not be forever (we’re getting older) but its worth figuring out if its not working for you.

Have you considered couples counseling? After watching the series Couples Therapy I’d definitely try it.


Gross
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 16:03     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wish men understood how much more important sex is to women than it is to them. I think women bond through sex far more than men



Woman here- that is not my experience at all.


Man here. Also not my experience at all.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:58     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriends parents are 72 and 76 and he recently went with his dad for a follow up regarding a spot on the dad's prostate. With bf in the room. His dad asked the doc if a procedure would affect their sex life because they've done it every other day for 45 years and he wasn't willing to jeopardize that!


I hope when his wife has similar health issues affecting her sex life she will be thinking the same thing. But I am not holding my breath. When it comes to sex, women are not as forgiving if their partner is not able to sexually satisfying them as much as they used to..


Uhm, pretty sure he was thinking of himself when he asked that but mmkkkaayyyyy
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:56     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:I wish men understood how much more important sex is to women than it is to them. I think women bond through sex far more than men



Woman here- that is not my experience at all.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:48     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
I wish men understood how much more important sex is to women than it is to them. I think women bond through sex far more than men

Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:40     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
We went from 2x/week pre kids, to 2-3x/month after first kid, to 1x/month during second pregnancy, to now 3x/week after second kid where my ob repaired significant pelvic floor damage from my first delivery. Feels better than ever. In mid 30s now.
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:29     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriends parents are 72 and 76 and he recently went with his dad for a follow up regarding a spot on the dad's prostate. With bf in the room. His dad asked the doc if a procedure would affect their sex life because they've done it every other day for 45 years and he wasn't willing to jeopardize that!


I hope when his wife has similar health issues affecting her sex life she will be thinking the same thing. But I am not holding my breath. When it comes to sex, women are not as forgiving if their partner is not able to sexually satisfying them as much as they used to..
Anonymous
Post 08/04/2025 15:14     Subject: How frequent is sex in your relationship?
My boyfriends parents are 72 and 76 and he recently went with his dad for a follow up regarding a spot on the dad's prostate. With bf in the room. His dad asked the doc if a procedure would affect their sex life because they've done it every other day for 45 years and he wasn't willing to jeopardize that!