Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 03:43     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Husband has always said if he made it to Director at his company he will join the country club near us.

He just got promoted and joined the country club-just a social membership but we can enjoy the club-golf, pool, tennis, pub.

One of my friends found out and said to me “well you will need to take me there so I can see it-it will be fun.”

I’m appalled at her rudeness.
Well she only found out if you told her or told someone in your circle that you had secretly joined a country club. Jesus lady, bring your friend to the dining room for a chicken salad club sandwich.


Seriously! People like OP are the WORST. “We can’t meet up that night; we have plans for dinner at the club.” BARF

"Pardon me, do you have any Grey Poupon?”
+1 🤮
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 02:52     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club.


Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.


You sound poor


No. She sounds like she’s no longer naive. I don’t belong to a CC but have had people take advantage of my generosity so I’ve also had to develop this muscle that prevents others from walking all over me. Especially for people from generous families or cultures, it can be a real surprise to realize others will take advantage as long as you let them. So now I don’t and neither does PP.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:22     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Any of my long time group of friends since law school (25 plus years) and my more recent group of friends (10 years) could say that and I would not be offended in the slightest. They would be sort of joking around but also happy if I invited them. I think you are being weird. Actual close friends aren’t offended if any other friend suggests that they hang out even at the first friend’s house, etc. — they know the friend will just say no if it doesn’t work and nobody cares.

For example, I invited my friend of 25 plus years was from the west coast to the east coast with her family to stay at our beach house with us on the east coast. I invited them two years in a row. This summer will be year three. But it was actually my friend who texted me months ago and said they were working on some plans and would love to fly cross country to see us if that worked for us. I was THRILLED, not offended. If it didn’t work for us, I could have said no and she would not have been offended. To me, this is how close friendships work.


People on DCUM don’t have close friendships, that's abundantly clear on many threads like this one and others. They have transactional relationships and are socially off just trying to rinse off that Ohio stink to feel self important.


So true. I cant imagine how often I'd need to tip toe around OP.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:17     Subject: Country Club Invite
It sounds like you don’t really like your “friend.” If it were my friend, I would jump to make plans to bring them. Your friend probably also only said that to make conversation, because who talks about a country club membership to others if they don’t have any intention of inviting them to it?
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:17     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:You are only "social members?!" **snorts**


What other kinds of members are there? Obviously I’m a plebeian.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:12     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club.


Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.


I have a friend like this. We are very generous with them. They never treat us. It annoys me. We once went to their house for a play date and we went out for dinner instead of ordering in. We split the bill. I also took them to our country club the week prior and paid the guest fee, drinks and a meal.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:11     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:I’m a Soho House member and I invite people all the time because people who aren’t members want to check it out. I don’t wait for them to ask me because it’s rude to bring it up and not extend an invite.


People want to go to Soho house?
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 21:08     Subject: Country Club Invite
What club? If it was that easy to join it’s probably not that nice to begin with..
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 20:38     Subject: Country Club Invite
OP you are someone I would never befriend at our CC.

You are not CC material. However your "friend" is.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 20:35     Subject: Country Club Invite
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club.


Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.


You sound poor


+1
The point of inviting people to your club isn't to satisfy minimums (the best clubs don't have them)- it's to magnanimously host your friends without the tacky involvement of cash. To want your guest to reimburse you for that is... well poor class.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 18:38     Subject: Country Club Invite
I’m a Soho House member and I invite people all the time because people who aren’t members want to check it out. I don’t wait for them to ask me because it’s rude to bring it up and not extend an invite.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 18:20     Subject: Country Club Invite
OP be aware if you do decide to invite friends during festive season, at least one will be asking about when your "traditional" holiday event at the club will be...the next August.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 18:04     Subject: Country Club Invite
I am a member of Congressional CC, and I invite my non-membership friends there all the time whenever I can and they are available. I make a lot of money because I get lucky, and I want my friends to have the same experience .
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 18:00     Subject: Country Club Invite
I think you should buy a diary next
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 17:59     Subject: Country Club Invite
This is the EXECUTIVE wife troll. One of my favorites.