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Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Why? Doing anything for my kids is never a hardship for me. Rather spend time with him than sip coffee alone and make starbucks richer.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

Except that it's Not. About. You.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

Isn’t the whole point of this exercise to spend those last few hours with your kid before saying goodbye? Agree that the coddling/helicoptering of Gen Z is out of control but this is a bit much. Even my parents helped get this cold, unfeeling Gen X latch key kid settled in when they dropped me off at school.

OP, I started a thread back in the spring of nutty parents on DC's parent FB page.

My all time favorite was a dad (yes, a dad) who wrote that his son had an exam in 2 hours and just realized that he didn't have a blue book, which was required to take the final. The bookstore wasn't open and the kid was in a panic. "Can any of your kids help US out? DS will meet your student anywhere on campus to pick it up. Please post here and I will coordinate the hand-off."

Anonymous wrote:I know it's my fault. I need to get off social media. But the hand ringing about sending kids to college is hysterical. This week I've read posts about:

--child's roommate does not have a social media presence, should they contact residential life
--child's roommate wears pants, while their child wears dresses. mom wants to switch roommates
--why can't parents stay beyond 2 hours to set up their childs room? Their child doesn't understand what all the packed items are for
--child's roommate doesn't care about coordinating room decor; Their child does. What should she do?

What posts have you read that make you wonder if these parents are ready to land the helicopter?

We asked the school if we could pay for 2 EV chargers in the parking lot of the dorm. To our surprise they said yes after a formal request. So 6 months and $45k later, DS had a way to charge his car in the dorm….unfortunately he was only able to use it for one semester as he moved out of Campus for next year.

I do wipe down the surfaces of the room because they are dusty and dirty. I do use a sanitizing wipe on the vinyl mattress but just use a damp cloth for the rest.

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Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.

NP. Aw, this makes me kind of sad. Imagine how lonely your kid must be for you to do this

Probably not lonely at all. They called home at a particularly bad moment like all of them have at some point, which mama spun into a crisis.

Anonymous wrote:I'd absolutely hire cleaners for individual dorm room if DS would have allowed it (he's in a quad with a private bathroom). I also had ready the contract information for laundry pickup/delivery to/from the dorm. Turns out DS was diligent about doing his laundry and didn't mind doing it.

Anyone see the recent post on the Cornell FB page where the cleaning lady was offering her services to clean kid's dorm rooms?

Anonymous wrote:Do people really wipe down every surface of the dorm rooms with clorox? Do the same people wipe down every surface when they stay in a hotel?

Yes but its necessary tbh. Most schools don't clean well, and it's a cesspool (wait until your kid is sick, really sick for 6 months straight). DH also opened (with a drill) the air vent and we cleaned (and lysoled that). Everyone in DC's dorm asked to borrow the drill after that.

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.

NP. Aw, this makes me kind of sad. Imagine how lonely your kid must be for you to do this

1.) Curtains are too ugly.

2.) Are we SURE there are water bottle refilling stations?

3.) Already refusing to share the microfridge, and the kids haven't even moved in yet.

Anonymous wrote:I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

You could have dropped him off at the dorm, gone for a coffee, and met him for lunch after he set up his own dorm room.

I set up my kid in under 2 hours. It went like a military operation. We already knew the dimensions of the room, closet etc. Everything got dusted, wiped, lysoled, vacuumed, put away and the beds were made.

Yes, some people are ridiculous and/or entitled, but others are simply inexperienced or uniformed. My son's SLAC has a number of first generation students and some parents just don't understand yet that their student is now the first point of contact for everything and the adult in charge. They know that other parents are still helping their kids a lot, they just haven't finessed the how to help.

I really like the tone of our group; occasional snark but mostly a lot of direct but gentle feedback about what kind of things a student should be handling vs. a parent. Its genuinely refreshing to see people ready to help each other vs ready to pounce all over the first "dumb" thing they read.

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until you get on FB parent pages for your child's school. It's insanity.

At DD's private uni, people have asked about cleaning companies for dorms.

My favorites are the ones who post that their child hasn't made any friends and would anyone's kid be interested in hanging out with their kid?? They also usually DON'T post anonymously for those which makes me nuts.

You should see FB parents page for St Andrews where DD is. OMG….this people are absolutely crazy.