Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
NP. That PP isn’t entirely wrong though. I always find the DCUM discussion t on estrangement and cutoffs to be fascinating because in my real life, the only people I know who have done this tend to be both unhappy and highly dramatic. I’d never describe them as full of joy, at least.
There are probably happy people in your life who just haven't shared with you going low or no contact. Very few people know I am low contact other than people I have been friends with since childhood and my husband and kids. Most people only share it with those with whom they feel safe.
That might be true. But the ones where I do know, they are the opposite of full of joy. And you can kind of tell when someone has gone no contact or low contact if you know them well enough to hear about grandparents, etc.
That is incorrect that you can tell if someone has gone low or no contact. Many of my friends don't know I am low contact or that I have a mentally ill family member.
People who have been abused are not all full of joy. Each human is an individual and will have a different experience and a different reaction to those experiences.
OP
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
NP. That PP isn’t entirely wrong though. I always find the DCUM discussion t on estrangement and cutoffs to be fascinating because in my real life, the only people I know who have done this tend to be both unhappy and highly dramatic. I’d never describe them as full of joy, at least.
There are probably happy people in your life who just haven't shared with you going low or no contact. Very few people know I am low contact other than people I have been friends with since childhood and my husband and kids. Most people only share it with those with whom they feel safe.
That might be true. But the ones where I do know, they are the opposite of full of joy. And you can kind of tell when someone has gone no contact or low contact if you know them well enough to hear about grandparents, etc.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
NP. That PP isn’t entirely wrong though. I always find the DCUM discussion t on estrangement and cutoffs to be fascinating because in my real life, the only people I know who have done this tend to be both unhappy and highly dramatic. I’d never describe them as full of joy, at least.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
Different poster and I am happy for you OP. I think those of us who went low contact or no contact post to let others know life can be better.When you deal with someone for years who sucks the life out of you with things like dramatics/manipulations/emotional abuse/lies you can feel trapped. It's hard to step back because there can be a whole family system insisting you stay in your role and you are afraid of the aftermath. In my case my mother was livid though she didn't get along with my sister either-she needed the dysfunction in play. So I lost a lot stepping back-another parent, extended family functions (because she was the type to make a scene), etc, but it was worth it. The tranquility is priceless.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have gray rocked my brother and could not be happier. I reach out to his wife, but almost completely ignore him.
Why do you maintain a relationship with his wife?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
NP. That PP isn’t entirely wrong though. I always find the DCUM discussion t on estrangement and cutoffs to be fascinating because in my real life, the only people I know who have done this tend to be both unhappy and highly dramatic. I’d never describe them as full of joy, at least.
There are probably happy people in your life who just haven't shared with you going low or no contact. Very few people know I am low contact other than people I have been friends with since childhood and my husband and kids. Most people only share it with those with whom they feel safe.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
NP. That PP isn’t entirely wrong though. I always find the DCUM discussion t on estrangement and cutoffs to be fascinating because in my real life, the only people I know who have done this tend to be both unhappy and highly dramatic. I’d never describe them as full of joy, at least.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If you are truly free and full of joy, why post about it and spend more of your life on talking about a toxic relationship to strangers? You still sound enmeshed.
Because it feels fantastic!
You did not have to read this post. You can make a decision not to comment, not to read, etc, etc. Are you the same poster who keeps posting critical comments?
OP
Anonymous wrote:I have gray rocked my brother and could not be happier. I reach out to his wife, but almost completely ignore him.