You have two options here, you can remain in this marriage but in doing so will subject yourself to a miserable ➕ subpar way of life

Or you can leave him and be away from a person who clearly repulses you.

I would do the latter if I were in your shoes…..

Our emotional intimacy dropped off a cliff. Then our sex life did. When someone you sacrificed so much for becomes completely indifferent to you (despite staying fit, making an effort, trying to open talks, suggesting sex toys, and finally declaring after none of that worked that you were unhappy and now it’s been 2 years since he heard that and has taken the initiative on nada) then it’s dead in the water. I love my kids more than anything so I will not destroy their lives. I’m lost.

This is such a depressing forum!
OMG.

Anonymous wrote:

We found our way back from this. DH is the one who asked for counseling and picked our therapist, so he was internally motivated to change. His issue was loss of intimacy; mine was more like your list. We are in a good place right now, and we will continue going to counseling for the foreseeable future because it is working.

Not OP but this gives me hope. I am in the exact situation down to my husband picking the therapist and his complaints about intimacy. After a year, our couples therapist suggested that I also see an individual therapist. I resent my husband so much. I have been seeing my own therapist for about a month now, and it is helping some. Hoping to get on the other side of this.