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Anonymous wrote:STEM woman here - I met my STEM husband in college and we married by 25. I think we both had solid career paths and were driven to build something together.

Please use the correct acronym:

Either STEAM or S-STEAM are correct.

No. This thread is about women in the fields of science, technology, engineering or math, not art. They are working in STEM.

The "A" was added for programs in schools to make STEM less intimidating for those who aren't particularly technical. It's supplements, but doesn't replace STEM.

Amongst my family members, there doesn't seem to be a difference.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ones who get married young are usually rich and pretty. High quality women get taken early.

I notice this too. Sometimes these women are STEM. It's more tied to social class and looks.

Pretty, smart, rich? Doesn’t matter if she is STEM, lawyer, artist. A high value man will marry her before 30 when her eggs are still viable.

I’m in my mid forties. I can’t think of any women who purposely waited until their forties to get married. I do have some family friends whose daughters were smart but not very attractive who didn’t want to settle and never married. It had nothing to do with their careers. Many women meet their spouses in college, grad school or during their young professional years. If you are above average plus being young in it of itself is attractive, many men will try to date and marry you.

Anonymous wrote:STEM woman here - I met my STEM husband in college and we married by 25. I think we both had solid career paths and were driven to build something together.

Please use the correct acronym:

Either STEAM or S-STEAM are correct.

STEM woman here - I met my STEM husband in college and we married by 25. I think we both had solid career paths and were driven to build something together.

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

I think the bigger problem teachers have is that they mostly meet other women at school and at work due to their profession. So it's the opposite pool from STEM.

Anonymous wrote:All my doctor and scientist friends got married early because they knew they'd be in school forever so they'd better get it done. Most of my humanities friends never married. I'm a married humanities person and my wedding was relatively late.

+1 though I mostly have doctor friends. Both genders usually married by 30.
Met spouses in school or residency, a lot of double-MD couples.

Anonymous wrote:The ones who get married young are usually rich and pretty. High quality women get taken early.

I notice this too. Sometimes these women are STEM. It's more tied to social class and looks.

Anonymous wrote:No, I have not observed this at all. If anything, if you are remotely attractive, the woman would be surrounded by suitors in male dominated industries.

I worked in finance and surrounded by men constantly. Women who work in female dominated fields may meet less men.

This is accurate. Even within STEM, there is a difference between something like Biology vs a Physics-related science. I was a man in the latter and a substantial percentage of the women ended up marrying someone they met in college, in our field.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

Disagree. Many men want a woman who won’t put her career first and will be willing to stay home.

Humanities degrees are more likely to fit that mold.

Perhaps in lower cost of living areas, but it's really hard to afford a house on one income in the DMV.

Anonymous wrote:I have a STEM PhD and married my college sweetheart. We met in college but got married during grad school.

My experience has actually been that women in lower paid professions have more trouble in the DMV dating scene. I'm friends with a few teachers who make $50-75k and they all struggled, as many men want a partner with more income given the HCOL in this area.

Disagree. Many men want a woman who won’t put her career first and will be willing to stay home.

Humanities degrees are more likely to fit that mold.

STEM women are in a target-rich environment. No problem finding mates.

The ones who get married young are usually rich and pretty. High quality women get taken early.

Anonymous wrote:I think regardless of field, men and women are marrying much later and having kids much later. 40 for first marriage and kids is the norm today. I wonder if people will soon start having kids and getting married at 45.

Unfortunately the cost of living is so high that people have no other choice.

I see the opposite. I’m 47 and mother of teenagers. I have friends in their fifties with married children who got married in their mid twenties.

I think regardless of field, men and women are marrying much later and having kids much later. 40 for first marriage and kids is the norm today. I wonder if people will soon start having kids and getting married at 45.

Unfortunately the cost of living is so high that people have no other choice.