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Anonymous wrote:No one who got a C in precalc is getting an A in AP BC.
Eh, he has the ability. He just sort of decided he wanted to spend his time doing other stuff and not turning in assignments.
I’ve got 5 engineers in my immediate family so I know what’s required. He’s the kind of kid that’s reading physics books for fun instead of turning in his homework.
I’m not saying it’s in the bag but he definitely could do it if he decides that’s what he wants to do. I may tell him that if he doesn’t get the A first semester, we will cancel the summer activity. But if the thinking is that he should retake even if he does get A’s, I don’t want to tell him that.
I wouldn't be spending my hard earned money on a kid who can't be bothered. No fun summer activities when he can't be bothered turning in work.
It isn’t that that he can’t be bothered. He’s not out with friends or gaming. He’s engrossed in physics. Why would anyone punish a kid for that?
I mean, we could say this about any kid doing anything productive but to the detriment of something else productive. He got a C in a lower level math class and you're asking how important that will be.
1. It is important.
2. He will be punished for it in admissions, as he should be. (Countless other kids were able to get the A in the AP Precalc and still focus on their other interests. Shouldn't they leapfrog over your kid in admissions)?
If he loves physics, there are ways to engage in positive motivation instead of being punitive. Such as: if you love physics, you aren't going to get into a great program if you get Cs in math. There may also be some behavioral issues, as noted by another poster, where counseling may be helpful. Your response is a classic example of how teenagers are expected to act like adults (and even some adults have problems in the workplace, with their families and focusing on their interests).
It isn't obvious that he should be punished for it in admissions. Other kids shouldn't necessarily "leapfrog" over him because they got an all As in math. There are lot of other aspects of an application beyond a pre-calculus grade. This is even more true if there is a development/psychological issue that requires counseling.
I have no idea how what you wrote is positive motivation and not punitive: "Such as: if you love physics, you aren't going to get into a great program if you get Cs in math."
The answer is he did get a C in math for - what the parent calls - "dumb reasons" - and now he very likely won't get into a great program. What you wrote shows that there is a repercussion to what the kid did, just like there is a repercussion to:
- not taking 4 years of a language
- not taking APs/IBs if offered at the school
- not engaging in ECs
- not engaging in impactful acts of service
- not getting high SAT/ACT/AP scores
It is not "my response" that says that kids are expected to act like adults. It is that the kid wants engineering, it is a very competitive major, and lots of schools say we want rigor AND good grades. You make it sound like I am pulling this information out of my butt and it is coming from me and not from the schools. Getting in is not only about having high stats, but that is absolutely a piece of it. If kids at this kid's school are taking the same course and doing well in it, he will be compared against those kids and he will not fare as well without some kind of extraneous thing that will help him.
The mom said nothing that I saw that says he has a developmental or psychological issue for the grade. She said - that I saw - it was for dumb reasons his grade was low and that he just prefers focusing on physics. In fact, what seems to show she doesn't think there are other factors at play is that she is thinking maybe he can get an A in AP Calc BC & and a 4/5 on the AP exam. Also, she doesn't mention other lower grades, indicating that he has done fine otherwise (which also negates the idea that something else is going on).