Anonymous wrote:…but doesn’t want to take the effort to build one and I’m fresh out of ideas. Has anyone successfully navigated this?
He does golf regularly and often travels to tournaments (with my blessing). He is uninterested in joining a church, volunteering with our kids’ sports, attending birthday parties, or taking their friends to an activity. He grumbles that we had no one to spend the Fourth of July with. Complains that people never invite us over or out to events.
Our kids are late elementary age. I am somewhat close to several moms and our children have many friends. I really worked to form these bonds by inviting frequently. He is uninterested in hanging with their husbands so our families never get together. The problem? He finds weekends and breaks daunting if I don’t have a plan in place or if the kids are home (they are late elementary age).
My family isn’t local but manages to help somewhat regularly with childcare, cooking, etc. His family is closer but uninterested. He does get regular breaks by going to the gym most days of the week, and I handle all of the cleaning and little house tasks. He works from home two days/week. What are we missing here?
Put those two things in front of him and say do you see how the first one is directly caused by the second one? You don't want to hang out with people...so people don't invite you to hang out with them. You're made we had no invitations for the 4th...but you would have said no had we been invited.