Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 06:54     Subject: Re:My sister wants a homebirth
I am so sorry op. And so sorry for the replies here. Given your sister’s first birth, and your own personal experience I would be very worried too. Try your best to know that it is out of your control AND that midwives WILL still transfer to the hospital if she needs it so her idea that she won’t have to go to the hospital is not based in reality. It sounds like she probably really needed that episiotomy to get baby safely out alive. Hopefully second baby acts like many second babies and comes quickly!
Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 06:39     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Our babies were born at birthing centers, no doctors and were just fine and are now young adults.l Is your sister in a rural area in the middle of nowhere? If not, it's likely an ambulance can get your sister and/or the baby to the hospital in a matter of minutes so don't worry so much.

It's her body, her baby, her choice: let her do what she wants
Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 02:47     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:My little sister wanted to give birth at a birthing center with her first. Her water broke and she never went into labor. She tried to decline antibiotics but the birthing center wouldn’t allow her to. 2 days went by and she never went into labor so the birthing center sent her to the hospital where she had to have Pitocin and an episiotomy. My nephew literally came out blue. His temp was low and she refused to let them put him in the warmer. It was terrifying.

She just found out she is pregnant with #2. She wants to have a home birth this time so she can’t be sent to the hospital. I’m terrified. I know it’s none of my business but I can’t stop being fearful for both the baby and her life. I know I can’t change her mind, so how do I cope?


If there’s a midwife there she can call an ambulance if the baby is in distress. My second one was put in that warmer thing because of temp. I can’t even imagine saying no. Why? They aren’t asking to perform a life threatening procedure. They are making a simple decision based on their knowledge on what’s needed.

Some people are too stupid to understand just how little they know. But don’t worry, it will more than likely be fine.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 21:56     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:Wow some of these posters are on another planet.

It is beyond selfish to make that choice- knowing your own baby will have a much higher chance to face life threatening injuries so you could have the birth story you wanted.

My sister also had a home birth, multiple weeks late, almost died, baby was rescue flight in a helicopter to the highest level NICU where she lived for a full year. Million dollar + bill. But they got to labor at home so it was worth it right?


Your sister is a dumbass too!!

All kidding aside- how selfish!
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 21:55     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
She’s a dumbass.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 21:51     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
OP, I’m sorry people are being so mean to you. I would worry and be upset too.

Since you can’t change her mind, I think you need to just focus on other things. But I wonder if you could convince her to at least have a certified midwife there who has a hospital affiliation in case something goes wrong.


I would also make sure she has someone to stay with her for the full night after the birth. I had a massive hemorrhage about 3 hours after a successful vaginal delivery. It does happen so if there is someone with her and awake they can call an ambulance if something happens. Even on call the midwife, they have the flying squad.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 20:19     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Some births with midwives are OK. Some are not. But it sounds like the sister is planning to “freebirth,” which is insanity.

Even some birthing centers are a mess.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/something-was-wrong/id1447286743?i=1000689493863
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 20:16     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose baby died during a home birth and they have so much regret as they know he could have survived with a quick c section.. BUT I would not say a word to your sister. It is completely her choice.


I have a friend whose baby died during a quick c section at the hospital. They regret not having a home birth.. BUT I would not say a word to your sister. It is completely her choice.


Receipts needed, you BSer.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 20:09     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:MYOB.



+1
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:51     Subject: Re:My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I get being worried and concerned, but are you seriously unable to cope? That is not normal. Are you currently in therapy?


Yes, I am. My daughter died at 2 days old, so I very much worry.


Wow very sorry for your loss. I would feel the same anxiety.

Try to give yourself space from the situation and pray the Serenity Prayer. Know that your sister is being selfish and that you have done your best to prevent any tragedies.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:46     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Wow some of these posters are on another planet.

It is beyond selfish to make that choice- knowing your own baby will have a much higher chance to face life threatening injuries so you could have the birth story you wanted.

My sister also had a home birth, multiple weeks late, almost died, baby was rescue flight in a helicopter to the highest level NICU where she lived for a full year. Million dollar + bill. But they got to labor at home so it was worth it right?
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:44     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Let her do whatever she wants. She is the one that will live with the consequences of her actions.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:41     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
2nd baby should come quicker. (Mine didn’t though)
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:39     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Your “little sister” is having a second baby? Oh no, is she being harmed? She’s underage, after all. She is little. She’s just a girl. She needs you to tell her what to do with her life, to tell her what is best. If only she were a grown woman.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2025 19:38     Subject: My sister wants a homebirth
Anonymous wrote:Back way off, is how you cope. Hopefully a health care provider will talk her out of this. It’s not your task.


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