Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’ve shared enough. Divorce.
Wow, did you read the post in it’s entirety??
Anonymous wrote:When did you last work full time? What is your career? How old are the 3 kids?
Get yourself back into the workforce to start.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any chance he felt like when the first kid was born, he stopped being special and felt like he could do bo right, in your eyes, once the transition to parenthood took place?
It sounds like you both feel unseen and unheard, he quit trying and you got angry and resentful. Counseling would be best since it sounds like there is a lot of history behind your post and both of you are harboring significant resentment towards each other.
A man that is jealous of his child is a disgusting POS.
Your interpretation of that comment was not how I meant it, but I can see why you read it that way. I should not have danced around the point- OP- did you have post partum depression or completely neglect him, unless you were complaining, after the birth of your kids? It is very common and he may feel like he has been enemy number one since he became a father, so the relationship is more adversarial than a partnership in his eyes.
Hope that cleared up the miscommunication.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any chance he felt like when the first kid was born, he stopped being special and felt like he could do bo right, in your eyes, once the transition to parenthood took place?
It sounds like you both feel unseen and unheard, he quit trying and you got angry and resentful. Counseling would be best since it sounds like there is a lot of history behind your post and both of you are harboring significant resentment towards each other.
A man that is jealous of his child is a disgusting POS.
Anonymous wrote:OP, the Ick associated with seeing the chat is understandable. I would feel that way if I saw my husband engaging in something like that, at least temporarily. Longer if it felt like he wasn't taking my revulsion seriously.
The larger issue here is that you keep asking him to lean in on the marriage with books and having babies and asking for counseling, and he does not seem to want that. His hobbies don't involve you. He is disengaged from the children. He doesn't seem to want to participate in family activities.
You can either accept that you are married to a provider who gives you the Ick with his little r*pey memes, or you can leave him. He probably won't change that much, and you just have to decide to what extent you can live with that.
And don't ever tell someone you are thinking of leaving them until you mean it. It's emotionally abusive to use that as a strategy, and it's strategically stupid to reveal your plan before you have one.
Anonymous wrote:You’ve shared enough. Divorce.
Anonymous wrote:this guy is not gonna want 50/50. hell prob see divorce as a blessing to f off and pretend to be 20 again. no cares, no responsibilities. dont base staying or leaving off of that.
Anonymous wrote:My husband never hugs me or says "I love you" so at least you have something to work with... try counseling.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re just trying using the chat as a reason to blame him. Your relationship obviously has issues that go far beyond that, including your snooping.
So whats your answer? Should they stay together or separate?
Not the PP, but agree with the post. OP should be trying to identify her role in why he (apparently) doesn’t give a sh*t. That doesn’t happen in a vacuum.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You’re just trying using the chat as a reason to blame him. Your relationship obviously has issues that go far beyond that, including your snooping.
So whats your answer? Should they stay together or separate?
Anonymous wrote:He might be investing his energies into another woman.