Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. As additional context, the nanny and her husband live together with their kids. The kids who still live at home are high school aged or older. My impression is the DD simply would like to join her mom on this trip. Nanny contract does not require vacation work, so this is an additional request. This would have no impact on vacation to which she is otherwise entitled. We take more than one vacation per year, and she'll have time off the next time we vacation without her, in addition to other time off to which she's entitled.
Side note, I am chuckling at the suggestion that people who have means to live comfortably are not entitled to try to save money where they can.
Sounds like you can say no to the daughter coming and the nanny can decide whether or not she wants to come based on that information.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We're not asking the nanny to travel with us for free. Extra pay, per diems, etc. are all included because we know this is work. My question was about the teenaged child who has another parent at home and to get a temperature check on what others would do in this situation and if others think it's an unusual request for the nanny to make.
Anyway, sounds like there's no clear consensus and we wouldn't be unreasonable for saying no, so we'll weigh the pros and cons and make a decision. Thanks to those who provided constructive feedback.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. We're not asking the nanny to travel with us for free. Extra pay, per diems, etc. are all included because we know this is work. My question was about the teenaged child who has another parent at home and to get a temperature check on what others would do in this situation and if others think it's an unusual request for the nanny to make.
Anyway, sounds like there's no clear consensus and we wouldn't be unreasonable for saying no, so we'll weigh the pros and cons and make a decision. Thanks to those who provided constructive feedback.
Hold up. Your takeaway from the responses was that you wouldn;t be unreasonable to say no? That's a strange thing to gather from the responses. My takeaway would be, "lots of people understand why the nanny would ask for this and think she's not being unreasonable. If I want to be a good employer, I should probably be more understanding."
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. We're not asking the nanny to travel with us for free. Extra pay, per diems, etc. are all included because we know this is work. My question was about the teenaged child who has another parent at home and to get a temperature check on what others would do in this situation and if others think it's an unusual request for the nanny to make.
Anyway, sounds like there's no clear consensus and we wouldn't be unreasonable for saying no, so we'll weigh the pros and cons and make a decision. Thanks to those who provided constructive feedback.
Hold up. Your takeaway from the responses was that you wouldn;t be unreasonable to say no? That's a strange thing to gather from the responses. My takeaway would be, "lots of people understand why the nanny would ask for this and think she's not being unreasonable. If I want to be a good employer, I should probably be more understanding."
Anonymous wrote:OP here. As additional context, the nanny and her husband live together with their kids. The kids who still live at home are high school aged or older. My impression is the DD simply would like to join her mom on this trip. Nanny contract does not require vacation work, so this is an additional request. This would have no impact on vacation to which she is otherwise entitled. We take more than one vacation per year, and she'll have time off the next time we vacation without her, in addition to other time off to which she's entitled.
Side note, I am chuckling at the suggestion that people who have means to live comfortably are not entitled to try to save money where they can.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am not the best person to offer advice here but from a more overall perspective, it is unprofessional for any employee to make such a request. While this is a vacation for your family, it is not for your nanny as she will be working. Inquiring whether her teenager can accompany is simply wrong and unprofessional.
The alternative is that the nanny does not go on vacation, and OP manages her own children on vacation.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We're not asking the nanny to travel with us for free. Extra pay, per diems, etc. are all included because we know this is work. My question was about the teenaged child who has another parent at home and to get a temperature check on what others would do in this situation and if others think it's an unusual request for the nanny to make.
Anyway, sounds like there's no clear consensus and we wouldn't be unreasonable for saying no, so we'll weigh the pros and cons and make a decision. Thanks to those who provided constructive feedback.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. As additional context, the nanny and her husband live together with their kids. The kids who still live at home are high school aged or older. My impression is the DD simply would like to join her mom on this trip. Nanny contract does not require vacation work, so this is an additional request. This would have no impact on vacation to which she is otherwise entitled. We take more than one vacation per year, and she'll have time off the next time we vacation without her, in addition to other time off to which she's entitled.
Side note, I am chuckling at the suggestion that people who have means to live comfortably are not entitled to try to save money where they can.
Anonymous wrote:Wow some very bitter people in this thread this morning! OP made a request…she’s not forcing the nanny to come. OP can say no to the kid, nanny can say no to coming. Personally I think it would be odd if she joined.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. As additional context, the nanny and her husband live together with their kids. The kids who still live at home are high school aged or older. My impression is the DD simply would like to join her mom on this trip. Nanny contract does not require vacation work, so this is an additional request. This would have no impact on vacation to which she is otherwise entitled. We take more than one vacation per year, and she'll have time off the next time we vacation without her, in addition to other time off to which she's entitled.
Side note, I am chuckling at the suggestion that people who have means to live comfortably are not entitled to try to save money where they can.
Watch your own kids then, it’s cheaper.
Anonymous wrote:OP here. As additional context, the nanny and her husband live together with their kids. The kids who still live at home are high school aged or older. My impression is the DD simply would like to join her mom on this trip. Nanny contract does not require vacation work, so this is an additional request. This would have no impact on vacation to which she is otherwise entitled. We take more than one vacation per year, and she'll have time off the next time we vacation without her, in addition to other time off to which she's entitled.
Side note, I am chuckling at the suggestion that people who have means to live comfortably are not entitled to try to save money where they can.