Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 08:37     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you want to wear it, do it.
Life is too short to do what other people like.


This.
Someone said I was brave for wearing a bikini after giving birth.
No. I was hot.

Trying being a woman teacher in Kabul for brave.
Or leaving an abusive bastard.


It is rather ignorant and insulting to compare the bravery it takes for people to do something important that risks their lives for the sake of making the world a better place with...a slightly chubby white middle class American woman's decision to wear a bikini in her 40s, no?

OP, it doesn't take "bravery" and this isn't a big decision. Just wear your bikini and enjoy the sun and air on your skin. Nobody is going to be looking at you or judging you for it.

Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 08:18     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Go to any beach in Europe and see women of all ages, shapes and sizes confidently rocking bikinis. No need for hangups.
Anonymous
Post 07/12/2025 01:21     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
I have a tummy now and tried the one piece but honestly it was so hot! It also was a pain to use the bathroom with a coverup on and have to shimmy out of it.

I am back to two pieces.

Wear what you want!
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2025 15:44     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
I wouldn't but you do you.
Anonymous
Post 07/09/2025 15:38     Subject: Re:Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:No. I wore a one piece to the pool yesterday and it was miserably hot. Turning 50 in a couple of months and I’ve decided idgaf. There were bodies of all sizes sporting bikinis there and I realized I need to get over this hangup.

Glad you decided to go for it OP


Thanks. yeah. This is what I've been thinking. Why am I hung up about this? My daughters are like - you are a dinosaur for worrying about this, mom. Who gives a f*ck? Just wear what you want! I feel fuddy duddy for even worrying about it! Let's do it.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 18:06     Subject: Re:Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:No. I wore a one piece to the pool yesterday and it was miserably hot. Turning 50 in a couple of months and I’ve decided idgaf. There were bodies of all sizes sporting bikinis there and I realized I need to get over this hangup.

Glad you decided to go for it OP


Oops. That was supposed to say “NP”. Not “No”
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 18:05     Subject: Re:Should I just wear a bikini?
No. I wore a one piece to the pool yesterday and it was miserably hot. Turning 50 in a couple of months and I’ve decided idgaf. There were bodies of all sizes sporting bikinis there and I realized I need to get over this hangup.

Glad you decided to go for it OP
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 15:31     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
I have the opposite issue of really loving the look of those swimsuits with skirts so they look like a cute little tennis dress. I will not wear one because I dont want to seem like I'm trying to hide something but I ultra care about the opinions of others and its a daily personal fight so I pick my battles.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 14:55     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
OP here- Alr, I’m going to try some on. It’s frigging HOT and I hate my torso being encased in wet Lycra - that is it. I’m going yo look for high waisted bottoms. The heck with it.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 13:28     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
OP, similar stats at 47 and after a couple of uncomfortable beach visits this year in one pieces, I'm switching back to bikinis next year, come hell or high water.

With your longer torso, I think a bikini will be flattering.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 12:59     Subject: Re:Should I just wear a bikini?
Wear the bikini! There are super cute high waisted ones if that makes you feel more comfortable.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 12:54     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Every body is a bikini body. Wear the bikini!
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 11:41     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you want to wear it, do it.
Life is too short to do what other people like.


This.
Someone said I was brave for wearing a bikini after giving birth.
No. I was hot.

Trying being a woman teacher in Kabul for brave.
Or leaving an abusive bastard.


A woman also called me brave for wearing a bikini. She’s someone who thinks that anyone over a size 2 is fat and should wear a burqa at the pool. I told her that life was too short to be worried that others don’t like my body. I wear what makes me comfortable and what makes me happy. For me, that’s a high waisted bottom with a supportive underwire bikini top. It is easier to go to the bathroom, I am a little less hot, and I can get the best fit because I cannot find one pieces that fit just right since I am pear shaped with a very small ribcage but large bust.

I love the j crew ruched high waisted bottom and I mix and match it with other tops.


Both of you are too kind. “Brave” is an insult disguised as a compliment. I genuinely compliment you on your temperament in handling jerks.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 10:16     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you want to wear it, do it.
Life is too short to do what other people like.


This.
Someone said I was brave for wearing a bikini after giving birth.
No. I was hot.

Trying being a woman teacher in Kabul for brave.
Or leaving an abusive bastard.


A woman also called me brave for wearing a bikini. She’s someone who thinks that anyone over a size 2 is fat and should wear a burqa at the pool. I told her that life was too short to be worried that others don’t like my body. I wear what makes me comfortable and what makes me happy. For me, that’s a high waisted bottom with a supportive underwire bikini top. It is easier to go to the bathroom, I am a little less hot, and I can get the best fit because I cannot find one pieces that fit just right since I am pear shaped with a very small ribcage but large bust.

I love the j crew ruched high waisted bottom and I mix and match it with other tops.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2025 10:07     Subject: Should I just wear a bikini?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one is going to be looking at you or thinking about you.


Except your mother. Mine was unable to enjoy our beach trip because she was so distressed about my BMI 22 mom bod in a bikini "for all to see." "It isn't FLATTERING "

Many of our mothers' generation deal with TONS of of this type of internalized misogyny. My MIL hasn't worn a bathing suit in over 40 years because she is so ashamed of her perfectly average body and feels it wouldn't be "flattering". Honestly, no one cares. Hope you were able to let it slide off your back!